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female
age
36-40,
*ary12
writes:HelloI want to leave my husband, i dont love him anymore (we dont have children and we're under 30) but I'm very scared of his reaction and our families, I want to know if I choose to hide for sometime will i have problems with the law? it is ilegal to hide from your husband? I will talk to him and tell him that i'll go but i'm sure he wont accept it, he will follow me and make my life hell, (he mention that he would break my legs when i asked him a trial separation) I know him for 6 years and he is mean if he want to. I'm very unhappy and my family its not in the country, I cant talk about this with anybody, my family wont support me anyways.thanks,ps: He is not a monster, but I'm scared of his reacction, u know who i can talk about this situation? i deffinetly want to leave him.
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (27 June 2010):
 You seem to feel like you are in danger. Do you have a strong support system? A family member in another state that will take you in? There is no law binding you to him. I see no reason why you can't just up and walk away. You need to hire a lawyer and see what your rights are. The lawyer would be able to guide you through a attested divorce and possibly good resources to ensure you safety .
Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 June 2010):
Woman's Aid, like said below, is a good start. Another start would be this
http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/
and make an appointment to see them. They offer totally FREE advice and may be able to help with housing, divorce law and such.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (27 June 2010):
 I suggest that you telephone the Women's Aid helpline (find the number on google). They can give you support, courage and a place to stay if needed. It is not illegal in the UK to leave your husband, nor to run-away. I would suggest that instead of verbal confrontation, you make a plan to leave and leave him a note so he doesn't call the police to report you as a missing person. You can get a injunction from the courts to stop him harassing you if needs be. All divorce communications can be between solicitors so you don't have to deal with the legal side of things with him directly. If you have shared financial commitments (i.e. joint bank accounts) I suggest that you seek advice from the citizens advice bureau on how to severe these ties. If you are leaving him for abuse reasons (and from what you write his threats are just that) then you are entitled to welfare benefits and social housing until you get yourself sorted out. The citizens advice bureau can help with your claim.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (27 June 2010):
 You can talk to me if you want. You can PM me and so I can help you by learning more about who and what is around you, so I can help you to make an escape plan.
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