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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I told my boyfriend of six months that my therapist thinks it would be a good idea to take a break. He flipped out, which I could see. I started to see a therapist about trust issues about five months into our relationship, because I was getting physically sick when I realized my boyfriend was receiving texts constantly from a girl from his class. What really made me feel worse was when he told me they really connected on the first day of class, his words not mine. To get any information out of him took a month of fights. So, today I told him it would be a good idea to take a break for a couple of days to define the relationship. First, he told me that we were already having a break, which I had not known about. We aren't texting or talking on the phone that much anymore and seeing each other a couple of days a week at most. Frankly, I was questioning if we even had a relationship any longer. He told me he thought our relationship has been strong and we haven't had any issues. That if I was going through something we would work at it together. I really need to figure out if this relationship is what I need to get stronger. I have been second guessing myself and asking myself if all of the women he has friended on facebook within the last week is good for me. Before going into the relationship with him I was a strong independent woman who had her life on track. Now I feel as if I am crumbling.I don't know how to tell him that I do need this break when he gets so defensive talking about any issues, women he texts to our relationship struggles. How can I approach it?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 May 2010):
No way in hell should you be feeling this way at 6 months into a relationship. I thin given that you're feeling so bad, you need to end it. It just seems like the relationship is tearing you apart.
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