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writes: Me and my boyfriend will been together 13 this nov but the last month just been hell, He had cheat on me and just last year he stop talking to other female but im still with him now every time we got a problem he go to his friend for advice knowing he dont like me and he never had a realationship so ofcuse he tell him im the bad one. I never cheat or talk to anyone i respect and know that 2 wrong wont make it right but i think he need to find him self a new friend or just go to someone else for realationship advice but he say im wrong ugh what you think? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 July 2012):
I have to agree with Maverick494 - it's a LOT worse to cheat then get bad relationship advice.
If your man uses this "bad" advice to make his decision there is something wrong with his own sense of right and wrong, no matter what his friend tell him, HE should have a mind of his own ad be able to think for himself.
And why oh why did you take him back?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 July 2012):
I think you HAD a problem with this cad.... then you ADDED to that problem by taking him back in to your life after HE "committed" to an advice-wielding friend who doesn't much like you.....
The only REAL question here, in my mind, is: How long are you going to wait to extricate yourself from this untenable situation?
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2012): I think you need to sit him down and explain that if you and he do have issues, then the best way forward is to try and talk them through together. That of course friends are always going to take the sides of their friends and what you don't want to do is play the'blame game' its not about raking points . I'm right he/she wrong its about being able to communicate together, so that you stay together. Tell him that what happens at home should be resolved at home. Hope this helps. God bless.
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reader, 747Devyn +, writes (19 July 2012):
He is either using this guy's opinions to justify his bad behaviour, or he's clueless as to this man's opinion of you.
I have this problem with my husband's ex, with whom he is friends.
A new boyfriend for you would be best. You deserve to be with someone who respects you; respect is just as important as love.
Devyn
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (19 July 2012):
I think the cheating is a bigger issue than whomever he gets relationship advice from. Why did you take him back?
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