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writes:I really want a boyfriend but ive tryed alot of stuff and i dont know what to do. Im 14 years old and ive been wanting a boyfriend for about two years now i know im young but i really want someone to call my own. The last boyfriend i had was two years ago when i was 12 it was nothing serious or anything just like a peck on the cheek and it only lasted 3 days. But ive grown up alot since then and im rather mature for my age and i think i can handle a proper relotionship. ive been trying to get a boyfriend since i was 13 ive always been quite consoious about my looks and they have at some points held me back. I did have two really good friends when i was 13 who one of them i ended up really fancying and well he was the first person i properly made out with, i was just not brave enough to ask out. the second friend eneded up fancying me i made out with him aswell i dont even know how it happened i know i this might sound really slutty but when im in a reltionship with someone i always have mixed feelings i can be really nervous and cant even talk to them and then it goes from that to i just want to kiss them but i get soo nervous. but if im not in a relotionship with them i find it easy to kiss and hold hands and stuff i dont get it ? But ive tryed to get a boyfriend by changeing my looks and clothes and trying to mix with different people but none of the boys seem to like me people at my school think im fat and ugly. I did join a dateing website just to make friends and loads of people were saying how beautiful i am and stuff which confussed me alot, i know its not all about looks and i do have a good personailty. but why dont boys round here like me ? i am moveing school soon so do you reckon that will help has anyone got any advice on how i should act around boys ? Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, uncle bob  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 First off, stay away from any dating sites or chat rooms altogether. The guys you meet in your age group there, are usually 30 to 50 year old men masquerading as young boys.
They'll talk you into meeting them somewhere with the soul intention of raping your little ass. SO WISE UP!!!
This happens far more often than you would believe.
Go to "youtube" and look up "Date Line" Pedophile stings.
It should scare the hell out of you!
It sure bothered me!(I have a daughter)
Next, you don't need a boyfriend. Your thirteen, stay as young as you can for as long as you can.
Let it all happen naturally. It will happen when it happens. Besides if your too aggressive in your boyfriend hunt, you'll gain a reputation you might not want.
If you do get a reputation, whether you've earned it or not, you'll always wonder, does this guy like me for me, or does he just think he might "Get Lucky"!
You have to ask yourself, Is this what I really want?
Remember, "Youth is fleeting, regret lasts a lifetime".
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (9 March 2011):
Your are still young. Think all you want about having mature, but youre young and will be for many years.
Changing your clothes, the way you act and look, will do nothing, as people will always like you for who you are.
Guys are too shy at your age and will probably never show that they like you.
Just keep on with life and meet new people! I hope you make new friends and meet new guys at your new school :)
By the way, keep away from online dating sites. You are too young, and the people online are usually mean. It is easy to be and sound nice online, they will tell you what you want to hear to keep talking to you and ask you for pics and do stuff you will not like. I hope you follow this piece of advice.
Good luck!
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reader, naomes +, writes (9 March 2011):
 First of all, you are so young darling, you have your whole life in front of you to be worrying about boys. You should think more on studying and work out what you want to be in the next few years. Have you thought about going to college? I'm sure there will be plenty of boys there that will like you and they will be studying too. Beauty is only skin deep. If you stop looking for love, love will find you. Once you start to understand yourself and what you want. When you learn to love yourself you'll shine. Please don't change yourself for a guy. Honey, have you heard the saying treat them mean to keep them keen? Don't let them see you are willing to change yourself because that's when problems start and I believe for every cup there is a saucer. So don't worry, you will meet someone nice soon.I hope this helps.
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