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writes:Ive known this girl for almost 4 years and we have been best friends since the day we met. I have always had feelings for her and i want to get out the friend zone and make her mine. She recently called me and asked me if i would take her out on her birthday and i told her yes. Should i make a move? If so how should i?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): I've just broke up after 6 months of very tough relationship with a year-long friend. I'd say go for it on her bday, but first read all the signs carefully & act correspondingly. For example, if you came out with your feelings & she *backed up*, that's it - a deal breaker. When I first told my ex that I have feelings for her, she even physically moved to the back & told me I'm just a friend. I should've never ever tried hard to get out of the friendship zone. Anyways, I learned my lesson the hard way: 6 months of difficult relationship, trying to do my best to make her fall in love with me while at the same time, I "made her mine" & fell in love with her. She finally told me that she still considers me a friend (which explains why she is never "ready for sex"). Now I'm heartbroken, lonely, sad and regretful.
Don't listen to all the sweet talk here & there. Go for it. But if you have doubts, or if she asked for long long time, then cut her off & get life.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (28 December 2010):
 If she's single, then I say you should go for it. It beats bottling up those feelings any longer. Depending on what you plan for the date, you may be able to gauge her interest.
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