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writes:I am totally in love with my boyfriend, and i know he loves me. Never would i doubt that but... I dont know if im pretty enough for him. I'm worried about my weight. I am 5'3" and weigh 106lbs. I'm not even what some people would consider chubby. I'm only worried because he is so skinny. I feel so akward around him, because he has little to no fat. I dont know if it really matters to him. But im scared it might. Do you think he minds that im a little chubby? I'm willing to lose weight...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): It sounds to me like you about the right weight for your height. Has a doctor ever said anything to you of concern? If not, I highly doubt there's anything to worry about medically. It's normal for women to have some more body fat than men...guys are just built differently. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
I can't speak for all guys, but I don't think that having some body fat is a turn-off (although you don't sound "chubby" by any means). I don't think the women I've been attracted to have been rail-thin and it was no problem. I doubt he has a problem with it, although you could talk about it if you're really concerned.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Look - 106 lbs is very very small and the lower end of the scale in terms of your "healthy weight". If you lose weight you would put your health at risk so please dont lose any weight.
I'm sure your boyfriend does not think you are chubby - the fact is he is your boyfriend, therefore he is attracted to you otherwise he would not be with you! I bet he thinks you are gorgeous so you have nothing to worry about, he really wont want you to lose weight as he loves the person you are NOW, not some scarily thin version of yourself.
And let me tell you something about teenage girls and boys:
Teen boys are often smaller than the girls, in terms of height and weight until they get to about 15/16 when they have a massive growth spurt! Puberty starts earlier for girls, so you will always be a bit bigger than the boys at first until they catch up later on! And women are naturally designed to have more body fat than men - it is a necessity otherwise you would not be able to have children. Women NEED body fat around the tummy and hips in order to have room for the child to expand into, hence why it is very important for women to have this little extra fat otherwise having children would be very problematic. So having a bit of fat is natural, dont worry about it because all girls have it! And if they dont, those are the women that have problems when they come to having children.
I promise you, your boyfriend will soon catch up when puberty fully kicks in - he will become bulkier and develop more muscle mass so he will no longer be a skinny boy and he will turn into a man! Some men never really gain weight, but the majority do fill out in their late teens and stop looking like scrawny little boys!
You are worrying far too much about this, you are thin yourself with a tiny bit of natural body fat that all women need. Your boyfriend would not be with you if he was not attracted to you, so keep reminding yourself of that and you will be fine.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (23 August 2010):
 It's not unusual for boys that age to be very thin. They usually fill out in a few years. Your weight is perfectly fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): I know how you feel I am in the same position, I weigh more than my boyfriend, he has no fat on him while I am curvy.
It's really hard sometimes, but what I have to accept is that it's only my self esteem issues. It helps to talk to him, tell him something worries you a little. If he is worth it he won't mind, because he started dating you how you are, how you are is who he fell for and why he is dating you. Right? Why would he go out with you if he didn't feel attracted to you.
Try not to compare yourself, female and male bodies are different, and you will probably slim down a bit once you finish developing. Just eat healthy and as long as your are healthy, eating right and getting sleep and exercise enough, even if you are "heavier" or anything it wont matter. Be confident in yourself!
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reader, TalonZurfluh  +, writes (23 August 2010):
106 is a great weight. dont worry about losing weight, just eat healthy and stay fit by doing physical activities, like jogging or playing sports. im the same way as your boyfriend, im 6 feet 2 inches and i weigh 165. my girlfriend worries too and i told her the same thing. but trust me, being 106 is NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT =)thats very light
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