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writes:hay im Thorn im 15 (sorry im bad at spelling) and i have a love hate thing with my boyfriend who is alot older than me and im not gona say how old altho im only 15 im very mature and i think things throuh im not the kind of girl who dose things without thinking. so its realy serious when i say i love my boyfriend more than anything in the worldheres were it all started…it was fine the first few months then he said to me ‘are you mad coz im not a virgen and you are?’ at first i thaught nothing of it and said no but as more months passed i realised we had met before but because we were both so young we dident remember eachother we were best friends as kids and i had to move away…i made him promise he would wait for me and took one half of this locket he gave me with me so we could always find eachother and when i say ‘wait for me’ i meant we loved eachother and promised to only have sex and be with eachother10 years passed and i kept my promise i waited and im still a virgen i never went on a date or even realy kissed a boy i said id wait for ‘the one’ who was him i thaught he would remember me to but he dident he got hit with a rock one day and dident remember a thing not even hes own name so he forgot our promise and forgot about the locketso he had lots of girlfriends and had alot of sex to and then after 10 years we found eachother agane just after hes girlfriend dumped himanother year passed and we became best friends and i soon after found that he was the little boy i played with we fell in love and everything was going well agane just like it did beforebut i then realised ‘shit he dident wait for me!’ he told me about the time he got hit with the rock and i tryed to get over it i mean it wasent hes fault but oh god did it hurt…i saved myself for him and he just gave himself away to a woman he dident even love. i then got depressed and we talk about it but everytime we do we get in a fight and i cant imagen having sex with him without thinking to myself ‘i wonder if she was better than me?’ and by ‘she’ i mean hes x girlfriend who he fell realy hard for and it upset me so much that i couldnt even be hes first love…..i cant be hes first love i cant be hes first in bed what can i be first at?im extreeeeeeemly jellous and i just duno what to do. how can a virgen please someone like him in bed? it hurts so bad he dident wait for me please someone help me please
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reader, Nime  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Is ANY of this story true? You expect us to believe that you gave each other promise lockets as kids and then this guy hit his head and lost his memory of it? Do you have any idea how rare that form of retroactive amnesia is? I don't even think what you're describing exists.
Let's also look at your timeline... so you made this promise and waited 10 years; that means you exchanged the lockets and promised to never have sex with anyone but him when you were just FIVE years old? You also say this guy is older than you and that he's had 'a lot of sex and girlfriends already', so I'm going to guess he's at least 18-20. You expect us to believe an 8-10 year old would make a chastity promise with a 5 year old? You've got to be kidding. And what's with the "I waited for 10 years" as if you made some sort of sacrifice by not having sex? You were a CHILD for most of those years!
I'm guessing this story is either a fan fiction or delusion. NONE of it makes sense. If you are in fact in a relationship with an older guy then give the real facts. If you think making up a star-crossed fantasy romance will make us more sympathetic to your plight as the loyal virgin, think again.
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reader, stingbat +, writes (28 October 2010):
i dont care that he didnt wait and as im gonna bring up with my aunts and uncles is the act that your 15. so much stuff is going through your head. this has nothing 2 do with him waiting cuz until that time when you realised u neva thought of that locket or even him now you do. plz look after ur body and if you do make sure u have protection but doin this just cuz aint the 1st i would leave it and walk away. he didnt remember your promise all those years bac he may not remember you 2moz
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (28 October 2010):
 the past will destroy you if you dont learn to over come it. what i believe about love is that either was always there or never was. He isnt with that giirl you call his first love so its not really love. If you show this jealousy is how you feel, then it could push him away. He may or may not regret his past. but one thing for sure, neither you nor him can change it.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (28 October 2010):
 I don't think you should have a full relationship with this man...especially not right away. I think you have got to remember that people promise all sorts in this world but it can be hard to keep promises. I think you have put him in an unfair position based on romantic notions about 'the one' and childhood memories. He has been away for you for years and it is not surprising he met other girls in that time. You shouldn't worry about pleasing him in bed. Your sexual inexperience is not a terrible affliction! He should want to sleep with you - just because it is you and not because you can do lots of circus tricks in the bedroom! I think the feelings of jealousy and confusion that you feel right now are fairly normal for teenagers. It is just a sign of not really being emotionally ready for that sort of a relationship - that is not a bad thing either. If your relationship with this man has any foundation in your adolescent/ adult life then you must stop thinking about the past and focus on the here and now. Spend more time building up the friendship and wait a while before you think about moving the relationship onto another level.
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