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writes:Okay so this is a rather simplistic question. I am 16 dating a girl a month younger than me; just to provide you with an age. I usually only date girls who are pretty skinny but I recently fell in love and am dating my best friend who is a little bit bigger than my average type. We have a real great connection but in all honesty I'm a little bit worried that if I see her without cloths on (which will most likely happen soon) then I might not be turned off. I'm just looking for some small bit of advice that could help me put these thoughts out of my head so that way they don't mess with me. Any ideas?Thanks for your help,~SFL
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 October 2011):
 ain't love grand :-)
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reader, Six_Floors_Left +, writes (3 October 2011):
Six_Floors_Left is verified as being by the original poster of the question Today is my 6-month anniversary with the girl that I mentioned in this question. I'm happy to say that even though her body still looks relatively the same but we are sexually active and I think she's absolutely beautiful just the way she is. Thanks guys :)
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Quite simply - if you truly love her then you will be attracted to her and think she is the most beautiful girl in the world.
If you are not attracted to her when you see her naked then you are not in love with her - in which case you probably should break up with her because it is not fair for you to string her along and play with her like this.
When you really are in love the person you are in love with is all you think about, you fantasise about them, you are attracted to them and you just want to be close to them. Attraction is a big part of a relationship and if it is not there then you can never say it is 'love' you feel for that person, it is simply a strong friendship.
So see how it goes, but if you feel nothing when you see her naked then you are still just friends, you are not in love.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Well think of it this way,Would you be upset if she was intimate with any other guy or would you be okay with that? Truth is, if she is really that important to you and you feel that your connection is deeper than purely physical than don't let her go. Focus on the things that make her beautiful. The physical qualities that attracted you to her. Don't compare her to anyone else you have been with because every single girl is unique in their own way. The truth is the skinny girls you see these days will eventually be larger than most. Trust me it catches up with a lot of them. But, as I said focus on the things that really attract you to her both physical and emotional. Once you do that you will find the sexual attraction towards her may be way more than you expect if not more.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (6 April 2011):
Their isn't any for you little dude. We date those that we're attracted too. You need to tell her that you cannot carry on this relationship, or wait to have sex with her then let her go. You know how she would say you just used here. oh you already implied your going to.
They get bigger as they age as we all do.
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