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writes:I've been in a stable relationship for over 2 years now. We've had arguments before but this one feels so much different. This time I feel terrible and I could really do with some advice.My girlfriend found pictures of women that i knew, that I used to have an attraction to back when I was single, still saved on my computer (now I know this is silly to begin with). They're women who are, some of whom, now friends with both of us, but I can honestly say I've never been bothered to ever think of the pictures let alone delete them until she found them (especially since she gave me pictures of her, but now she deleted them).She brought this into the open the other day before I had to leave for 2 weeks, and now I have 2 weeks not really sure of where I stand, if there still is love? If I've ruined it?She was very upset and couldn't believe I'd still have them. I've apologized to her and told her i understand how she feels and she insists on these two weeks being time in which contact is minimal. It drives me nuts, worries me and just makes me want to spontaneously drive back to go see her and make things up to her.. but I suppose that's also what I need help with..What do I do to make it up to her? I can't just say sorry, and deleting them won't change anything.I'm scared this is the water that'll put out our spark, I know I shouldn't have them and I try to see the empathy within this, that I'd hate seeing pictures of old crushes she used to like and feeling insecure about it.. I suppose I don't know what else to say, but I know I did wrong, I just need some advice to where I go from here? Do I go along with the 2 weeks and wait til she starts to see past it or will me doing that be seen as being cold and not interested? How do I make things like they used to be before the arguments and this?Any opinions and advice is greatly appreciated, Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Hey.
I would keep the 2weeks as a rare contact move. Text her every other night. Just saying "Thinking of you" or "I love You". She will take the 2weeks to think about everything and hopefully she will understand. It's not as if you have cheated on her or anything right? Women work in funny ways. She'll have a rant and then she'll forgive and forget. Well most do anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): wait half way through the week and go back to her. every morning txt her saying you love her and you hope she has a good day but leave it at that. create a balance where she is reminded that you love her but has her space. show up with flowers. go over then top.
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