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writes: Hi. My boyfriend of nearly a year broke up with me last week because he had interest in another girl. But two days afterwards he phoned me and said that nothing happened with her because he still had feeling for me. That night we met up and talked for hours and ended up sleeping together and agreeing on the next day we had free ( this was a Thursday and the next free day we both had was Monday). But on Sunday night i called him to find out if his parents could pick me up as they'd moved and i didn't know they way. But he was staying out with some friends and this girl was there. While i trusted him and knew nothing would happen, my mum didn't and she said to me that he was probably sleeping with her. So i called him and asked him and he was really upset. Now he says out relationship won't last because I don't trust him but I do, i just wanted to prove my mum wrong. Will he call me again and want to get back together?
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reader, communicatrix +, writes (15 June 2005):
 The question is not whether he will call you again for a reconciliation; the question is what you will do if he does.
You say you really trust him and were just trying to prove your mother wrong by ringing your boyfriend at the friends' house, but I wonder. I don't think that's the action of someone who deeply trusts someone else.
Not that he's given you reason to trust him. He broke up with you to be with another girl, then on a non-free night he's with this girl (and yes, various other people) and not you? And he tells *you* that *you're* the one with the problem?
There's something wrong with this picture.
Clearly, you two still have feelings for one another. Unfortunately, that's not enough to make a relationship work.
So back to my original question: if he calls, what will you say? I hope you have the strength to say, "You're right, honey. I don't think this relationship will last either, so let's let it go gently now rather than with anger later."
Good luck to you.
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