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writes:10 months into our relationship and my boyfriend receives a simple text from his ex-girlfriend saying 'Hi Do you have my CV?' and I have to leave the cinema that we're in for 5 minutes and then basically ignore him for the duration of the film and on the way home. I do trust him and I don't know why I respond in this manner. I spoke to him later on and explained that I know he still replies to her even though they broke up 2 years ago because he doesn't want to be impolite to her and I understand that. I explained that messages from her still make me angry and that I can't really understand the friendship between exes thing. He is getting really fed up of reassuring me and I'm scared I'll lose him. Shall I talk to him, tell him I trust him and that next time she texts I will simply give him a kiss and move on? Or wait until it happens and just do it....it may not happen for several months. The last time I was with him when she text was Nov 09!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): Ask him how he would feel if the roles were reversed? I understand where he is coming from, though. He can't control that his ex texts him, maybe she's not over him. As long as he isn't responding too personally, then don't worry about it. He's probably just being polite, which is a good trait. It makes you seem jealous, and that can be a huge turn off. Just think about all the positive things about your relationship, and don't worry about it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 April 2010):
If you can't handle the fact that his ex is in his life in a friendly capacity, then you need to move on. That said, he knows it affects you and could politely cut contact any time he likes. He doesn't need to spend time speaking to her, he can cut her out. So I'd suggest you ask him to cut her out politely. If he doesn't, and you can't handle the fact that she is there, then you need to move on.
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