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writes:I’m in a horrible dilemma, the last 12 months I’ve been trying to move on from this guy who I used to date. I’ve been feeling down and my feelings have became intense. I was contemplating weather to contact him. I did the stupidest thing to get in touch. He told me he was in love with his girlfriend and he gave me his mobile number. I had no intentions to reveal my feelings or break their relationship. We were texting and somehow he made me reveal my feelings. He said I had to move on and that we could be mates. His girlfriend found out we were texting and she warned me off. The bloke and I decided to stop texting but he changed his mind and wanted to meet me sometime. The next day I decided to stop the contact as I needed to move on. That night his girlfriend said they had split up. I felt terrible. The next day he wanted to start again with me. I said I felt second best and you can’t start a relationship if you are emotionally involve with your ex. He wanted to make ago of things. I said we could be mates but he didn’t want to. We texted everyday and I was feeling confused. He said he likes me and he always has. He said he couldn’t get me out of his head. I didn’t get my hopes up. We texted everyday.One weekend, he said he had to help his ex move out. Later on in the evening he said he was going to a nightclub and I was going to a different nightclub. He wanted me to meet him at the same nightclub but I said I had plans to go else where. Anyway I went clubbing and I saw him and his ex. I told him to never to contact me again. He said he still wanted to be with me and that his ex wanted to come to this nightclub for one last time. He said he couldn’t refuse her. I told him that we should stop contacting each other but he continued to text me and I could not help but reply to him. Then half way through the week, he had to drop things at his ex’s place and I was feeling nervous. Later on he told me, he had sex with her and that she never wanted to see him again. He said he didn’t wanna lose me this way. He told me not to wait for him. He said he felt terrible and that he’s hurting his ex and me. Somehow we continued texting and I explained that things are not gonna work out between us. I tried ignoring him but he still texted me. Half way through the week, his ex wanted him back and he said he didn’t know what he wanted. I told him I didn’t want him to contact me again and later he revealed he’s back with his ex. He said he was sorry to hurt me but we could be friends. Then his ex contacted me through a network site, she had a major go at me. I said things which I shouldn’t have. He got mad at me and over the weekend, he said spiteful things to me. He said he had not intention to be with me and said he loves his ex. Couple days later, he said he wants to talk, he wants to meet up, he asked how I am. I haven’t heard from him over a week but today he texted asking how’s things. I just wanna know what are your views on this guy, why did he play me like that? Was this some kind of game? I can’t text him as his girlfriend warned me not to. I’m not proud of my actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): I agree with "ask oldersister". You shouldn't pursue this anymore. He was just trying to get his cake & eat it too. All along he knew he was never gonna leave his girlfriend definitely. He was just playing games with both of you.
You should've known that since he kept going back & forth to both of you.
You should just let him go & move on with your life & let him move on with his along with his girlfriend.
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reader, all i need +, writes (4 May 2008):
okay well first off this guy oviously is not for you. he has you right where he wants you. he knows if things go wrong with him and his girl then there you are, easy rebound. he might actually really be in love with his girl but even if he isnt, you need to leave this guy alone. you are an adult and to old to be playing stupid high school games. if a guy truly likes you and really wants to be with you, he will be. he will do everything within his power to get you, thats how guys are programed. ate to to say it but he clearly just wants to keep you around for his own selfish reasons. you need to move on. find some body who is worth the time. some one who feels the same way about you because you dont have time to be somebodys rebound. leave this guy alone trust me you dont want to get involved with someone who isnt even worth it...
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reader, mskate  +, writes (4 May 2008):
some blokes crave attention from a lot of girls and love seeing girls fight over him. usually, this type of guys have no money, not a very good job, semi-good looking, but have no real talents and/or skills. your bloke sounds like a real loser! someone you wouldn't normally date. and now you're being played by a loser... snap out of it. i understand that you probably still remember when he was sweet, and you hold on to that and hope that sweetness will reappear. oh sweetie, he won't... at least not for a long time.you text him one last time, that's to tell him "not to contact you anymore." if you feel like it, also text his girlfriend one time, tell her that she can have him, you do not want him.
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