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anonymous
writes:So I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months and we really like eachother. Recently while we were making out he made a go for my boobs and from there it got a bit too intense for me. So I pulled back and told him that I didn't want it to go any further and that I felt uncomfortable with him touching my boobs and the other things that happened. He said he couldn't help himself and that he was really sorry about it and it wouldn't happen like that again. When we talked about it later he said that whenever I was ready and that he would wait and not pressure me to do any that I didn't feel comfortable doing. I really appreciate him being understanding but I can't help but feel bad about putting him down like that. I want to make him happy in our relationship. Did I make the right move or not? Should I feel bad about what I did or am I just over reacting ? I'm really confused can someone please help me out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): How are you going to trust a female opinion on this one?
As a guy I can tell you honestly I would never stick with a girl for 5 months without "anything". Absolutely NO WAY 18-21 year old male is going to stick by a girl for 5 months without any action, sorry I had to say it again.
He's either cheating on you or is a saint. If he's a saint then you better hold on to him!
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 No, you're not overreacting. You felt uncomfortable with his moves, said so, and he backed off and told you he won't pressure you if you are not ready. That's good, it shows respect.
However, I do wonder if you have been dating for five months why you are still uncomfortable about taking it to the next level? Do you think he is not trustworthy? That he wouldn't be willing to make a commitment? After all, where sex is involved, the two of you should be exclusive to one another, and pretty serious about the relationship.
If you have doubts about all this, then you should remain at the stage you're now at - though it would be a good idea to talk with him as to where both of you see this going, and what you both want from your relationship......good luck!
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