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writes:Well I'm 17 and I have a major problem. I am bisexual and I am in a long distance relationship. She lives 2 hours away from me. However a few days ago I came out to my parents and it didn't go well... I also told them about my girlfriend umm... they were not pleased... they don't want me to see her any more and are saying I need to get a boyfriend to stop me thinking things that don't exist because they don't believe their is such a thing as been bisexual...!!! grr!However I really like this girl and I really want to keep seeing her. Can my parents really stop me? I am not going to lie to them to carry on seeing her but I am going to try and persuade them. Things have calmed down but it's no longer mentioned?what should I do???
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reader, hassana +, writes (22 September 2009):
well for starters you have to tell this girl how you fell and that you are bi-sexual if she still likes you then you should tell your parents this is the women you love and that they should be pleased for you and im sure afther that they'll come round.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): Other than the fact you are dating another woman, why did your parents need to know your sexual preference?
I hate talking anything sex-related with my parents. It's not that I'm a prude, it's just thats not the sort of thing one discusses with family. Its the sort of thing discussed with friends.
As you are considered old enough by laws in the U.K. to make the decision to have sex with whoever the damn hell you like, no, they cannot stop you from seeing her. If you live with them, then they can however prevent her from entering THEIR property. After all it is THEIR property and they can refuse entry to anyone they like, even Police if they have no warrant.
So fucking in your room and others around your house will have to wait until you are both out on your own.
Eventually they will have to come to terms with your sexual choices, and any other choices you make, but don;t push it. But don;t lie down and take it either. Make it clear that you are what you are, and you will welcome THEM with open arms and an open heart when THEY choose to accept their own daughter, for better or worse, and whoever she chooses to date.
They don't have to like the girl you are with. They have every right in the world to hate anyone they want. But the least they can do is accept and be civil to her. Tell them that, and say that is all you require of them. Just to be nice to her, no matter what they think of her or you.
Flynn 24
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (21 January 2009):
 Completely agree with Satindesire. 5 star answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009):
- get your parents to look at this website http://www.tht.org.uk/informationresources/sexandsexuality/sexuality/bisexual/
and http://www.manpg.co.uk/links.htm
and others out there that can help them come to terms with your sexuality.
- hang in there - it's not going to be too long before you leave their home...
- it sounds like they're putting their heads in the sand for the time being - which means that maybe you don't have to sneak around to see your girlfriend.
E.G. " Mum, Dad, I'm going out for the day to City X - see you later"
"Mum, Dad - I'm going to go out with friends, we're going clubbing, see you sometime on Sunday"
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