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writes:I told my friend a couple days ago that I was gay.I told her that she was the only one I told and that i just need help. She said she wasn't judgemental or anything like that but she won't talk to me. And I have no on else to tell. I have another friend and I asked them, "if i was gay would you still be my friend".They quickly said no.If my own friends don't accept who I am then how will I ever be able to tell my parents.I'm so confused and I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEverythings okay now...for this problem
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reader, takeoutthetrash +, writes (7 August 2008):
ok if your friend doesn't except you for who you are then she is not a friend at all. You will find other friends who will love you for who u are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): Your sexuality doesn't have to be known to anyone but yourself.And for your so called friends,they aren't your
friends because if they were,they would have accepted you as who you are.And I think your other friend is lying be-
cause there couldn't be any other reason why she isn't talk
ing to you.I think inside,she is really thinking bad of you
and she probably said yes because you were the only one she
could go to and she didn't want to turn you away.And she's
propably avoiding you to keep from showing her real thoughts about you.I mean,why is everyone against gay and bi people?That's wrong.It doesn't change the world,it's just people's sexuality.It's not going to raise gas prices
or start a war.I don't know why this country is just start
ing to accept gay couples and marriages.I have a friend
that is bi and I told her I would never treat her any different because that's no reason to treat someone differ-
ent and it would never change our friendship.And I always mean that.If you want to talk more,stop by my column and
send me a message.I'm always here to help.XxXxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): This is very horrible of her and tbh she doesnt deserve to be your friend if shes like that;i have a couple of bi-sexual friends and it can be a shock but people get used to it; they are no different and neither are you just because your gaydont let anyone put you dont, be proud and ignore what people think;people will grow to get used to it honestly; good luckxx
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (16 July 2008):
 You have to remember that no matter what you are or do, that your parents will always love you. I have asked my mother that if my brother reveals he's gay (he's really not, it's a hypothetical question), will she accept him. She said she would even whe she thinks homosexuality is wrong because she loves him and he will always be her son. Now I'm sure your parents would feel the same way, I hope they do.
Now my guess of why your friend hasn't talked to you is because she doesn't know how to react to the situation. It's like imagining your teenage sister or friend has told you she's pregnant. Now I think you should let her think for a couple of days and just leave her alone for a while. Hopefully she'll come back to you and be a good friend to you.
I'm very sorry that your friends don't accept people as how they are. I really won't suggest you for you to get other friends because that's WAY easier to say than to do, plus I also assume that the place you live is against homosexuality. Now I really hope your friend is a friend to you and accepts you for who you are. And I hope that she doesn't end up telling anybody.
Now if she doesn't come back to you and betrays you, then the only thing you have to do is be brave. Be brave for whatever comes to you and never let anyone let you down. And if you fall down, show everyone that you're capable of getting up and move forward.
Good luck and I really hope your friend accepts you.
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