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writes:hi everyone so i dont know what to do about this me and my boyfriend got into a fight last nite and he started to pack his things we were talking while he was packinghis things and he put all of his stuff outside and we went for a walk and he told me ill still loveyou no matter what happens between us and you will always have my heart no one can take that away from you then he hugged me then kissed me i dont understand he told me that we were done when we were fighting is this him showing me that he needs his space but he wants it to work out i really need some help here i dont kno what to think of this because i want him in my life forever hes my everything is there something i can do or say to make him stay with me he also said he would call me is that a good sign? plz help me Reply to this Question
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (17 July 2008):
 You have to give him time to think things through.
Also you have to take time to calm yourself down and to think more straight.
I know this sounds ALMOST impossible to do. I know you just want him back so much and now and I know you dont know if you can't wait any longer. I also know that you feel everything's lost and that the relationship has no chance...and that you don't have a chance. I've had this same feelings before when my boyfriend and me broke up for a while and I almost reacted the same way you did, but I tried to give him time. He eventually did call me back saying he had commited a mistake and asked me to come back to him.
Please be patient and give each other time to think and calm down. He has given you signs that he will come back. Also, lay off the text messages for a while. You could send him one or two per day, but not more than that. If you do, you will come off as needy and that's a put off for many guys (or a sign that he can control you at his will). Like said before, just calm down and be patient. He will come back.
Take it easy for now, and good luck.
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reader, mattie90 +, writes (17 July 2008):
mattie90 is verified as being by the original poster of the question im just so worried abt our relationship i dont wana lose him he told me b4 he left to text him as much as i wantd he said that hell read it all and he also said the more i text him different things abt how sry i am and other stuff that the more he'll think abt comin home ive sent him texts says how sry i am n tht im willin 2 spend the rest of my life makin it up 2 him if thts how long it takes he my evrything ive never been so much in love i dont want him 2 think tht im needy or desperate i want 2 show him tht even if we have our fights the good will over come the bad and that we'll get thru it thick and thin no matter what happens between us is thr sumthing that i can say 2 get him to come back or even just 2 call me also thank u for ur advice i appreciate it
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (16 July 2008):
Well everything is big and emotional for you right now and you both need time to calm down. Give it a few days so you both get things straight in your head and then talk to him.
A lot depends on what issues you have and what you were fighting about. Talk to him and tell him calmly that you want to work things out.
That's pretty much all you can do. Keep talking and listening and hopefully it is only a fight and you'll get over it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (16 July 2008):
It does sound like he wants some space and then come back for you, but who knows. You asked "is it over...forever?", well, no one knows because no one knows what your boyfriend is thinking.
The things he told you do sound like he wants to give the relationship a chance, so try to hang on that for a while. If he takes months to come back to you, then what he said was probably a lie to keep your hopes up and hooked on him so he could control you. Don't let him control you if this is the case, dont show him that he can play you like a violin or else you'll be miserable.
Now just hope that whatever he said is truthful and wait for him, but keep reminding him that you still love him. If he was truely yours, he will come back, but if he wasn't, then just have hope that some day you'll find the guy that will.
Now just relax and wait for him to come back. He probably just needs space and if he says he loves you as he did, he'll stay with you. Good luck
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