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writes: I recently told a female friend that i liked her and have some feelings, but only mentioned this because she was pressuring me into telling her, she made out that she knew what i was going to say so i told her because of this. She said it wouldnt effect our friendship at all, but to me it has because when were alone she is the same person she was as before, but when we are around friends she is completely different, sometimes not even recognising me, she has also told one of my good friends what i said to her and i didnt want it to be told to anyone else, and im finding it hard preteding i dont know when i do! I dont know if i should talk to her or leave it, but its really getting to me, as i feel like im trapped.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (1 May 2006):
 this girl has played you and then got cold feet about it. I think you are right to recognise that she will never behave in the same *friendly* way again. The fact she avoids you in social situations and doesn't beahve in the way she did before indicates she is uncomfortable and doesn't have the same feelings for you.
As hard as it might be I think you should chalk this up to experience and move on. I wish you luck with your future dalliances with the opposite sex.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (1 May 2006):
 I agree with Angel ron, it cannot be the same in the future. A friend of mine told me he fancied me and we just couldn't keep the friendship ticking over afterwards because each and every time I couldn't meet him for a drink etc he put it down to his confession rather than the fact I was megabusy with work. In your case, it sounds like your friend hasn't been very fair in telling other people. However, you just have to live and learn. I am sure she coaxed you into telling her your feelings and that maybe very good for her ego (lets face it everyone likes to be fanciable) but it sounds like she hasn't handled the situation with much maturity. Why not take a break from your friendship with her to recover?
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (1 May 2006):
Well things won't be the same. things will start to change. If you tell someone that you are in love with them and you wnat to be imtimate with them. sometimes they can accept it sometimes they will reject so baiscally gice ner time to think and get used to the idea.
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reader, jimmy2 +, writes (1 May 2006):
 Hi,it sounds as though your 'friend' has a lot of pride in herself, probably too much. I think she suffers from an insecurity whereby she feels that she has to be accepted socially in every way she wishes before she can relax. She needs the breaks put on her a bit because I think she sees social acceptance on any level as a reason to boast.She needs to realise that life does not revolve around the way she feels. Others are involved and their feelings have to be taken stock of, i.e, yours in this case.With you, I think you have to take a long hard look at what drives your attractions anf feelings for others. Don't feel trapped, take some time out for yourself, there are much, much better people out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2006): Things always change when it comes to matters of the heart... so you need to ask yourself which is more important felling like you are trapped because she wanted to know or trapped because your fears are all comming true... either way you need to find out what is important to you her as a friend or your feeling of self worth?
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