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writes:Hi, I have this male friend and feelings have stirred between us, but due to him having a girlfriend nothing has happened, although he has asked to meet up a few times but i have made excuses. He kept telling me that his relationship with his girlfriend isn't great, and that he feels like she is just part of the furniture, Well last week i found out they are getting married soon, so i told him that, we could only be friends. Now he is being overly sensitive to things i say, and is really defensive and keeps picking fights with me? Can anyone shed any light on why he i acting this way because i am totally confused, and would like to try an understand whats gong on with him, as i really don't want to lose him as a friend as we get on so well, please help?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): I agree with the other commnets. Blank this guy out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): Why are you hanging around with this lying cheating waste of space. They all say that their relationship are not good at home, then they get to have their cake and eat it. Wake up dear, you are not the first and he is using you. Walk away and get a bloke who is free and single.take carexx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (27 February 2008):
 HiIf his relationship isnt great then why doesnt he do something about it or quit it? Doesnt ring true to me. But he's your mate, you will know him better. But it sounds to me like he is a tad manipulative and the reason he's hanging around, is because you are a bit gullible. I'm the same! We're easy pickings. But when it comes to casual sex, im a tough cookie! So just stand your ground. I have a feeling he wont be such a great mate if you dont give him sex, and actually end up meeting someone special.I feel sorry for his wife to be, she oviously doesnt know the real him. No marriage can survive that long term.Good luck.C xxxxx
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 Hi there,
oh dear, if you can't see what's going on i feel sorry for you.
He wants you to be his mistress, so when he gets married he has a bit on the side he can visit when he feels like it. That's why he got in the sulk when you rejected his advances.
My word, why are you even communicating with this guy, he is getting married and is chasing after you. This doesnt make him much of a friend material either does it?
Look, meet some new people let him have his affairs with someone else, and pity the poor woman who is going to marry this creep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): this man clearly wants to have his cake and eat it, he wouldnt be marrying someone who was only part of the furniture their relationship is developing not ending and you are there to give his ego a good massage, im sorry to point this out but its a fact, dont undervalue yourself and certainly dont ever be second best, there are lots of men out there who are free and single and would treat u with the respect you deserve. if this man is willing to cheat on his intended wife he would surely do it to u too in time if u were together, send him a text wishing him well and tell him you value yourself too much to share a man with another woman, and his lack of respect for either of you will almost certainly ruin your friendship with him, i wish you luck and hope you meet someone soon who will treat you far better than this man ever could
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