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writes:I love her so much but we're just friends. Now that I've told her how i feel she has pushed away what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Cut off contact. Try to keep yourself busy. Take down things that remind you of her. Don't look at her facebook or myspace. Don't contact her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): You have probably done all kinds of nice things for her and can't understand why she doesn't love you back. It's important that you know she hasn't made a CHOICE to not reciprocate your feelings. She just doesn't feel it. That means no amount of nice stuff you do can change her feelings.Take a step back. Respect that she doesn't feel the same way. You need to go be around other people and cut off contact for a while. If you want her back as a friend, you need to act like you don't need her. Don't gush over her. Don't apologize for your feelings (unless you've been creepy). Be cool with you and she. It might hurt like hell inside, but act like you are a man who would say "I'll just go out and get one of the other 3 billion women out there."She'll probably be your friend again if you show that you're not a creepy hanger-on and are your own man who can move past her.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 November 2009):
You have to be brave and accept her decision, before trying to move on. You'll need to spend time with other people, keep yourself busy and not stop contact, but pull away a little so you can get over her. It will take time i'm afraid, but you will get there.
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