I thought we were in a committed relationship, but he's been dating someone else while dating me.

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I have been dating a man for 9 months now. All along I have considered this a serious, mognogamous relationship. I recently found out that until about a month ago he had been dating another woman as well. I was crushed, but he said until now he wasn't in a serious relationship. We had talked about this before, and he always asured me that I was the only one. The only reason it even came out was because I found text messages between the two of them. He swears that its over between them and He chose me. He is now in a commited relationship with me and would never cheat. He said he only dated this other girl because he thought I was dating others as well. (not sure why he thought that, cause I told him he was the only one) My issue now is TRUST! I'm always wondering if he still has contact with her. Any ideas on what I should do?

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