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writes: Okay so, I met this guy at a friend’s place say around two weeks ago. We hit off immediately. We spoke a lot and were inseparable till the end of the gathering. It was a completely new experience for me. He lives in a different city by the way so he moved back there the next day. We exchanged numbers at that gathering and continued to text and call each other over the next few days. Those conversations too went on forever. We both admitted it was a wonderful getting to know each other and that it was the closest we’ve felt to anyone in ages! We added each other on skype and skype’d every night. It seemed that he was an old friend and I’ve known him for a long time. This guy, who only listens to trance music and so on, now starts telling me to listen to slow love songs that he’s begun to like. The songs always went around a guy trying to express his feelings to a girl. It’s almost as if he was trying to tell me how he felt thru them, but I’m not going to jump to conclusions yet. When he sent me the last song a two days ago, the most meaningful one yet, I hardly responded, except for telling him I liked the melody and the lyrics. I don’t know what happened after that. In just that moment, he lost interest. His messages got monosyllabic; he made no attempt to start a conversation again and later he just stopped replying. That night, he wasn't online on skype, I waited. He would usually just be there as soon as he got back from work. And he’s normally online the entire day; he leaves his laptop on throughout. No text till the next afternoon, a reply to my good morning is all I got. He probably got busy at work so I didn’t mind. Last night too, he didn’t come online on skype. He’s normally online on skype, msn and facebook at the same time. Yesterday he was online only on msn and facebook. I’m beginning to believe he’s blocked me on skype. As soon as I got on facebook, he went offline. He was still online on msn, my status was ‘invisible’ there! What is happening?! I can’t make sense of anything. If he really wanted to stop talking to me, why all of a sudden? Why not just delete me on all those networking sites! I’d surely get the hint then. I was beginning to like this guy. Why does he have to walk out now? Please help me out here
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 August 2012):
It sounds rather odd.
If you want to know though, call him. Ask him what's up.
Linking you a love-song doesn't make you an instant mindreader so if he got butt hurt that you didn't get some "magic" point to the song, I don't know what to say.
I would just call him.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (28 August 2012):
That was kind of random. And sucks since it sounded like you got on so well. The only thing I can think is that he didn't like your response to the song he sent you, like maybe he felt he was putting himself out there and you didn't give the response he was hoping for. But all of this is a bit of an overreaction. Since you both got on so well I would try to email/text/call, one of those not all, and ask him what happened and say you enjoyed talking to him and were starting to like him and miss it. Put it all out there. If he doesn't say anything or just responds with one word then forget about him- he obviously lost interest for reasons unknown. But by telling him how you feel then you can know you were honest and open and did all you could without uncertainty of what could have happened. Plus you can move on and stop checking for him on Skype.
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