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writes: I need some advice. I am a 23 year-old male, who has never been sexually active due to insecurities. I felt up until recently ready to become sexually active. (Not casual, hook-up sex but sex within a trusted, committed relationship of sorts.) However, I have found out that my penis (yes, it's penis insecurity) is well below average, in the 4 to 4.5 inch circumference range. I am happy with the length of my penis, which is not terribly long, but not terribly short at 5 to 5.5 inches, but the girth thing has brought my romantic life to a complete halt. I know that I have a skinnier penis compared to most men, and I am not the type who is going to get into this whole dangerous affair of trying to enlarge my penis through something stupid like jelqing. I would much rather accept the size of my rather small member, and learn how to satisfy a woman with it. My question is this, what advice does everyone have to make the most of my member. Positions, moves, attitudes, even just saying that it is possible to satisfy a woman with this size penis, are all welcome and would be greatly appreciated.This is very important to me. When I finally meet that fantastic woman, I am dead set on making her feel wonderful. Any advice on her to make her feel wonderful is great.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Men think that women have this "desire" for a man with a big dick, this is usually not true. I my self actually am turned off by a man with an very large one, men tend to forget while their bragging about size that they just have to put it in, we have to fit it.
Don't worry, if your special someone really and truely loves you, ask it seems you love her, then she will love all of you.
Good luck! And dont worry!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Troubledtoomuch, I sometimes wonder exactly WHO it is that has this penis-measuring job.
There's someone out there who goes to cocktail parties: "Oh, by the way, I am a professional penis-measurer."
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Yes, it would be a very good idea to consult a urologist on the ED thing. Make sure that he checks your hormone levels - testosterone and estradiol to start. It's not likely that there is a problem at your age, but it is possible. If you ever used steriods for bodybuilding or sports, that can screw up your own body's production.
Many times ED is a mental thing. A guy will have trouble getting an erection a couple of times and then he starts to worry about it and then it becomes a mental problem and not a physical problem. Also, your concern with not being able to satisfy a woman didn't help.
By the way, here's some good info on how to do oral sex well:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/oralsex.shtml
Check out the beginner and advanced hints.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the input, guys. The advice you all have given me has helped bolster my confidence. (Especially the compliments on my attitude, intelligence, and sensitivity. *blush*) I am in the larger picture pretty happy with my erection. But for a while now I have been suffering from ED, and I have not had the same kind of strong erections that I used to have in high school. Although, I think that I should consult a urologist on that matter. Anyways, thank you very much for the help and compliments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): The best thing you can do for your sex life, and for the woman in question, is to ask her exactly what she wants and spend lots of time learning to be good at it.
Satindesire is dead right with the clitoris 101, but I for one tend to get irritated with too much clitoral stimulation, and can orgasm from penetration alone. I actually hate oral sex, and it turns me right off. Women are all different.
I can tell from your question that you are a very intelligent, sensitive man. Bring that confidence and will to please into the bedroom and it doesn't matter what the measurements are.
Some practical suggestions: try positions where the woman has her legs fairly close to her torso, like doggy style or with her knees pulled close. This sometimes makes for more deeper penetration. Massage her clitoris with your hand or body while inside her, or use toys.
Good luck!
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reader, sometimes ( Iwish)  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Listen up dude,
Confidence is your biggest erection.
Work with what you have, Smile and give truely who you are to people. Get educated, get involved. Explore your needs, and the needs of the person you're involved with. It cuts out the drama of trying to please each other without knowing what they are, and opens up the proper emotions to have fun and pleasure in your life.
99% of this if mental, regardless of whatever people post.
Confidence man, is the way to go here.
Women have very similar insecurities about sex. don't be shy.
The last statement you left in your question is the perfect outlook on this...
"This is very important to me. When I finally meet that fantastic woman, I am dead set on making her feel wonderful. Any advice on her to make her feel wonderful is great."
You will knock 'em dead with this attitude. Right now, Be encouraged, stay motivated.
I'm actually impressed by this - Thanks man
Regards,
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): You aren't that small. You are average length. Various medical studies show average length to be between 5.1 inches and 5.5 inches. Your circumference isn't that small either. Average is a bit less than 5 inches. Take a look at this article. Note that the distribution curves are skewed upward for the LifeStyles condoms study. Participation was voluntary, so it is suspected that really small guys didn't volunteer.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis_size
Most women say that it doesn't matter that much. You are well within the range that women are satisfied with. My wife had one boyfriend many years ago who was much smaller than you and she says that she was happy with his equipment. Actually, they could use positions that we can't because I hurt her if not extra careful. And I'm not big either. Here is an article where women talk about penis size.
http://www.altpenis.com/penis_news/women_penis_size.shtml
If you care about their enjoyment of sex, try to give them orgasm(s) every time you have sex, are affectionate and just don't roll over and go to sleep after you get it off and treat them well, then your size won't matter to the vast majority of women. If the size that you are is a problem for a woman then you are probably better off without her. Remember that many, perhaps most, women don't have orgasms with intercourse. Learn to give these women oral orgasms and they will be very happy with your sexual abilities and equipment.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (22 March 2009):
The average circumference of a penis is nearly 5 inches, or 127 mm around. You don't sound abnormal to me, everyone comes in different sizes and shapes. Find someone you emotionally click with, the sexual part is important, but it's secondary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): Sorry. I know how you feel. I have a slim jim, too. My previous GFs didn't seem to mind, but my wife has never been sexually satisifed. At first, I thought it was becuase she had never orgasmed before, but she does orgasm with me when I stimulate her in other ways. W've used toys taht she loves. However, she's never been turned on by sex with me, and says she doesn't feel it. She yawns. Just be sexually conpatable with the woman you marry, and it may take a few women/experiences to try to figure that out. Good luck.
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