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30-35,
*odaii
writes:Me and my ex were together for a year I thought she loved me but we broke up in november, after she cheated on me when drunk. Unfortunatly we are in the same classes for 17 hours a week, sitting next to each other. We arnt talking at the moment, sometimes we do sometimes we dont. After we broke up we didnt talk for a month and a half, then we did for about 3 weeks and it was like we were best friends again then I realised how wrong it was, and told her and now shes in a mood with me and not talking. How can I get over her when I see her everyday? I dont think I love her anymore but I still miss her and wish things had never gone so badly, how can I get over her and should I be over her by now?? (its been 3 months)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 January 2010):
If you're sat next to her all the time, you'll not get over her. Ask to be moved somewhere. And you're right not to be in contact with her. She's not worth a second of your time. See if you can be moved.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (30 January 2010):
 Can you not ask to be seated elsewhere? Maybe you could go to your tutor/teacher after lessons one day and ask her to move you to another place. I'm sure they'll allow it if you're not happy. If they ask why, just tell them that you are not getting along very well at the moment and you'd feel more comfortable sitting elsewhere. You don't need to go into any details if you don't want to.
I think you're expecting too much too fast in the way of getting over her. It has only been three months, you were together for a long time and you need time to get over the betrayal.
I think you should keep away from her for a while (and any other people who you might wish to get into a relationship with at the moment) until you know that you're completely over her and then start building the relationship back up from there as friends, but do not feel tempted to get back in to relationship with her where you are going out together. I think you should explain to her - you need time and that you would like to be friends in the future but it's just too much right now. She has betrayed you - forgive but do not forget.
Good luck xx
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