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writes:Well i dont know where to start, its kind of complicated and now im really confused :/ soo pleasee any advice would be greatt. So basically i met this guy on fb hes 20 and im 16 (i know big gap =S) i tried talking to him, but he didnt seem very interested.. so i added him on my other account and lied about who i am and my age, i eventually got his attention and he was being super sweet.. about 2 days after talking to him on my fake account, i decided to tell him who i really was beacause i felt guilty and i wanted him to like mee not the fake person i had created.. yeh so, i ended up telling him and obviously i was expecting him to get really pissed and never talk to me again but he didnt (altho at first he did seem pissed off). He started talking to the real me after that and everything was greatt, he was greatt too and i can still say he is an amazing person. Over the next few days we started talking more and more and we eventually swapped numbers. Once we had swapped numbers we were texting constantly! but after a few days he just stop talking to me and started acting off and i still dont know what i did.. he wouldnt start the convos, wen i talked to him he would only give me short replys and he started gettin sarcy which really got on my nerves :@ (btw this was all during the summer holidays) and then he texted me after a month simply saying 'hello stranger!' we then had a normal convo before he went back to uni.. butt in december i found out hes got a gf so i dont know why he gave me high hopes when nothing was going to happen? :/ and i texted him jsut before the new year but he didnt talk to me like he used to and i really miss what we used to have eventho it was only for a short time..Hope you can understand,I seriously dont know what to do! i hope you all dont think im pathetic, i only did all that because i liked him a lot and didnt want to lose him..Your advice would be much appreciated Thankss
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reader, xkatx  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 Heres the thing, you really like this guy, but the truth is, you fell for him wayyy to quickly and way to hard. You got way to attached and you should of found out more about him before you even talked to him as much as you did. You may have cool and great conversations with him, but in reality, hes a stranger to you, and your a stranger to him. You may think you know each other, but its obvious you dont know each other well enough for anything to happen anyways. The best thing to do is just move on. If there wasnt even a real relationship to start with, then theres really nothing to lose and nothing to get way to upset over. I understand you liked him, alot. but the its clear its just not going to work, i know its not what you wanna hear, but you have to think realisticly. Ive had my fair share of guys talk to me that i liked and then wind up with a gf, it hurts believe me i know. But if there wasnt really much a relationship to begin with then the easier it will be to move on. You may not believe it now you have a long ass life ahead of you. you'll meet new people, new friends, new bf's, new guys, within your lifetime. its part of life, and sooner or later you wont even remember this guy. just keep your head up, dont let him think he got the best of you, show him your worth much more then what he gave you and cut the communications and forget about him. you got a long time ahead of you sont spend it wasting your time over a guy who obviously doesnt have or want much with you. just live your life, be happy, screw the guys, party with your girls, have fun with life, dont waste your time over something little, wen you only have one life to live and mine as well spend it right (:
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (5 February 2011):
 I know you're hurt, and I'm sorry.
The fact is, he IS quite a bit older than you and even if he enjoyed chatting it would be rather to be expected if he were to meet someone closer to his own age. I don't see that you did or did not do anything to put him off.
AND: GOOD FOR YOU for owning up and telling him your real age! That took courage, you know.
Unfortunately, you don't really have a choice but to let it go, and figure it was enjoyable while it lasted, and chalk it up to experience. Hopefully, before long you'll meet someone closer to your age who will be a delight to chat with......
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