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writes:im 16 and i thought i was gay because i like to masterbate to men and not women so i thought i was gay but yesterday this boy in my class amitted he like me and we called each other and he said he wanted to date me and i havent had no one since about third grade and i thought i wanted him or at least somebody because i've been single for so long but when i said yea to him i felt weired from that point on i was like what the F have i done i don't want this i felt like dropping dead that next day it was like my life was over i realized i don't want him i believe it was my hormones because my hormones always get me in sticky situations and when i saw him the next day i was like what have i done, and he is gay on the down low no one knows but i felt like sh*t that day and i told him that i wasn't intrested in a boyfriend and broke it off but i can't shake it off i feel like i have messed up or some i wish i didn't lead that on. I told him that we can be just friends and i wouldn't tell no one and i realized that i may not be gay and i just may need one special girl because i've been lacking in that area since 3rd grade now im in the 10th but i feel so bad and depressed about this whole thing what can i do to let it go because i believe im gone think about this forever
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (2 April 2010):
Well... that was kind of a 'mean' thing to do. Find out that someone LIKES you and agree to actually 'go out on a date' with them... and then back out. BUT... I know where you're coming from. My first few 'dates' with guys... just about made me ill. I was terrified. But... you won't really know if you're gay, bi, or otherwise, until you've gone ON a few of these 'dates'. And... if you're jacking off and thinking exclusively of guys... you're probably gay. You just have to become comfortable with it. Remember, you can't love someone else, until you can love yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): A lot of people go through this, girls and guys. When I was dating I used to get scared before dates. Staright, gay, bi, whatever. Dating is scary.
No one can hep you determine you sexual orientation, but I can tell you that you need to be honest with yourself. Deep down were you afraid of the date because you thought maybe someone from school would see you? Or did you think the date would lead to sex that you were not ready for?
Maybe your fear was not so much the other boy or a lack of interest. Maybe it was that you aren't ready to admit to your self or anyone else that you are gay. Thats perfectly fine.
I would say, because it's more socially easy to date girls in public, go on some dates with girls. See how you feel. Don't force anything, and be honset with your self. If those don't feel right then maybe you would rather have boys, but that stil doesnt mean you have to rush anything.
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