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*awrchelskapow
writes: Ever since a young age I have always believed that I was bisexual but after having my first few sexual encounters with men, the tables were completely turned. I felt absolutely nothing, I wasn't turned on in the slighted way. I was even imagining in my head that he was a woman just to become aroused. The point is, does this mean I'am a lesbian? It sound's strange but I do have a physical attraction to men but when it comes to sex, I have completely no interest. I've always thought that maybe I just haven't found the right guy yet but then again, I don't want to go on a few dates to lead them on and realise I am only interested in woman. I really thought I had it all figured out but after having sexual experiences with both men and woman, sex with a woman was completely mind blowing compared to the guys I've been with.I remember I went to the cinema with a guy I met from college and he started to kiss me, to be honest I would have been better off kissing a brick wall. I didn't feel anything. compared to when I've kissed a woman I was completely turned on. so the real question is..does this mean I'am only interested in woman?
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reader, rawrchelskapow +, writes (10 September 2013):
rawrchelskapow is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha, I'am actually 17 coming up for 18 but that's beside the point. I know some people at a young age are just, "going through a phase" but I know for sure I'am into girls, it's just boys I'am not too sure about. I've had a few male sexual partners and the same with woman, a lot of the men were in there 20's, so you can concider them as men. maybe your right though, I shouldn't just put a label on myself, I suppose sexuality is fluid and I should just go with the flow! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2013): Why do people think that when you are 16 your too young to know who you are sexually. And why dose she need to man me her self.. For God sake. The girl want to know who she is. When you know who you are you can relax and be comfortable with your self.
My advice try going on a date with a woman and see if you feel anything or on a date with a different guy. Explore to find out who you are.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (10 September 2013):
As time goes on you may change your mind back and fourth about your sexuality...eventually you will start to notice that you don't change your mind (and that can take years)...then you will know!
I agree, no label needed!...just be yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2013): Either you're going out with guys you don't fancy, or you are a lesbian. But you're sixteen so you'll probably find out later on.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 September 2013):
I agree, why do you NEED a label. You are still young, so I would just relax.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 September 2013):
Hi Chels, is there some urgent need to apply a label?
Why not simply be with the person you want to be with and work it out from there?
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