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writes:i have felt so empty lately i guess. the reason is because i like this guy named Kent. Kent is 28 years old. I am 18 years old. Kent used to work at my school as a security guard. when i was in 9th grade i saw him but never paid any attention to him. in 10th grade we started talking and i would skip class to hang out with him. i just considered him a friend. in 11th grade one of the other security guards told me he went to a better paying job and wouldnt be back. i felt upset but thought i would get over it. as i have realized i haven't. About 6 months ago i saw him in a store and we started talking he told me to come see him race up at the racetrack where we live. i agreed and the last race was about 2 months ago. everytime i went to one of his races he would always give me a hug and thank me for coming. i had never seen anyone there for him like a girlfriend there to watch him race until the last race. some girl walked up to him gave him a kiss and said "hi babe". my heart was broken because i really liked him and thought he liked me somewhat to. i asked him about it after the race and he said that the girl was his wife and he has a daughter and one on the way with her. i didnt know what to say i was speechless. the races are starting up again next week and i am going to go. i want to tell him how i feel but i dont think i can and i dont want him thinking im crazy or obsessed with him or something because these are true feelings for him. i am heartbroken but i need to see him so thats why im going to the races.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (7 September 2009):
 What will you achieve by telling him how you feel? Do you honestly think he will leave his wife and children (whilst she is pregnant) for a teenager?
Think about this properly - you have a crush on an older man who has never given you any signs that he is interested in you. He has a family who he is happy with.
You need to let this one go, he is not the right guy for you and there is no point in pursuing this any further. You dont want to be the silly little girl that is trying to break up a family now do you? Think about his wife and kids - this man is everything to them and it would really destroy them if some 18 year old girl was trying to pursue a relationship with him. While you may have feelings for him, they are nothing compared to the feelings his wife and kids have for him.
You will get over your crush in time, these feelings you have will go away eventually. But if you tried to break up that family - those feelings of hurt for the family would never go away.
Be sensible and dont even go to the races, there is no point in seeing him ever again. The more you see him the more you allow your feelings to develop, so if you dont see him then you are allowing your feelings to go away. Take some time out to get over him and then move on, there are plenty of unmarried, nice single guys out there that would make great boyfriends.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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