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reader, Charger  +, writes (19 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe text got back to me and said she missed my laugh, kiss and stuff. So I guess we're good. I over think things and get anxiety attacks well I aunt thinks so at least. She called me babe so I'm not sure if we are back together or not. Thanks for the comments
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 I think that in any case you should not be pressuring her and breathing on her neck and counting minutes waiting for her texts !
I don't know, obviously, if she is just depressed,stressed out , tired ( dealing with a 14 months child is no joke ) and just needs a breather, and some peace and quiet to think things through. Or, if she has already decided you need to move on and it's just hesitant to give you the boot finally and irrevocably.
Bur either way, let her be, give her space, let her take the lead in texting and appointments etc. It's not by crowding her that you'll improve the situation, you might very well give her the final push to get you out of her life for good .
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reader, Charger +, writes (19 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I know Im probably over thinking things but lastnight we were texting and I asked if I could come see her but she said shed say yes if she didn't have to get up really early. So I asked If I could see see her the next day which was today and she said she might go to her moms. So I asked if I could see her before she went to her moms and she said she would text me after she got off she said she might take a nap. It's almost 8pm. We were texting just fine and she said I was in her thoughts. My aunt told me she thinks I should move on. I don't want to yet I mean she says she misses me and still really likes me and also thinks about me so what do you think I should do. I'm kinda down about it
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reader, Charger +, writes (18 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I am a over thinker for sure and it sucks. I might get to see her today :) thank you for your advice
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (18 May 2012):
 I think you are over thinking this...just do what feels natural. You are trying to second guess her. You know she's got a lot on so don't panic if she don't contact you for a few days.
The weekend is here...ask her if she wants to hang out on Sunday. If she can't then just try again next week.
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reader, Charger +, writes (18 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLol I guess I was in panic mode. She got back to me. How long should I wait to talk about us if we're gonna get back together or not?
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reader, Charger +, writes (18 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I text her hope your having a good day. So I should only text once a day or should I ask later tonight how's she doing? Also if she replies back and doesn't say anything about us hanging out should I bring it back up?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 May 2012):
Don't worry if she don't text back...you are a guy, you can do a little chasing. Just text her every day, asking how she is and tell her shes in your thoughts...that should be enough.
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reader, Charger +, writes (17 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI asked her last night after her last text asking what I was doing. How long should I wait till text her back if she doesn't replie to that text? Lol im sorry if I sound like I don't know anything but I really don't want to mess this up anymore. also what should I text back?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 May 2012):
Sure...go hang out if that's what she wants.
If she is having a tough time you could be a stand up guy and let her know you are there for her and offer to help her with anything she needs...that shows you care about her and will stand by her when times are hard...
and switch off the phone.
Sometimes you need to be slapped in the face with the answer, even if it's a simple one.
Also if you offer help, make sure you back it up with action or she will just thing you are an unreliable douche!!
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reader, Charger +, writes (17 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I agree I was rude and didn't realize it. She also said i would Make every conversion a joke which Did realize either. I'm just not sure how to handle her right now since she's going through a lot. Like i said she said she missed me and still really likes me. But since we are not together I'm not sure how to act now. We are texting normal stuff now and I figured since she said she missed me and still liked me I sent a text asking her if she wanted to hang out in a couple days. Was that the right move?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (17 May 2012):
Simple, shut the damn phone off. Do your work or social calls before, or after, spending time with your gf. Or keep the phone on if you need to, but screen calls and texts and ONLY answer those who could be urgent and important. You are not , presumably , on call 24/7 and a text is not a royal summons that can't be kept waiting for reply.
It is VERY bad manners distracting your attention from the person you are spending time with, to divert it on other people. Many people do that nowadays,just like you did, but that does not make it any less rude .
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 May 2012):
Show her more attention when you are with her I guess...
The phone thing is annoying. I actually stopped seeing a friend because whenever she came to see me she was constantly texting on her phone, so much so that she was completely distracted and we couldn't have a conversation. I figured there was no point seeing her and that if she didn't have the good manners to actually have a face to face convo then she wasn't much of a friend anyhow.
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reader, Charger +, writes (17 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBtw she did end up breaking up with me last week. She says she's been really depressed and stuff.
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reader, Charger +, writes (17 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk she started texting me again so we talked for a bit and she explained it all to me and it was my bad things I didn't realize I was doing like when I spent time with her I'd be on my phone a lot. But anyways she says she still cares for me and really likes me still and misses me. So how should I handle this? I still want to be with her. Any advice would be appreciated thanks
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reader, Charger +, writes (13 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (7 May 2012):
Tell her you won't play games. Either she wants to be with you or she doesn't.
She's blowing a smoke screen and obviously isn't happy with some of your behaviour. Ask her straight, what the problem is and tell her you need to know or else you cannot find a solution.
All sounds like silly girl nonsense and manipulation.
If two people are dating and they run into trouble...they need to talk it out. If either one doesn't want to talk about it, then it's most likely they are either not ready...or they don't want to be in the relationship in the first place.
Take the shortest route...ask he what the freakin' problem is so you can try and fix it...end of.
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reader, Charger +, writes (6 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell she text me last night asking why I delete my texts. I already answered her but how should I handle this now?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 May 2012):
She is avoiding you...she answered the call (from the blocked number) heard your voice, hung up and turned off her phone...could that be any clearer.
I know everything seemed fine last time you saw her but evidently all is not fine and she doesn't want to see or speak with you. It sounds very much like she has someone else in the frame.
Im so sorry, I think you should take the hint and let her be.
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reader, Charger +, writes (5 May 2012):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I have called a couple times and have texted her. The thing is is she was fine when I last seen her so that's why I'm confused. One of my friends that she doesn't know called her to see if she would answer and then say they had the wrong number and she answered. The friend told me to call from a blocked number so I did and she answered and said hello and then I said hello then she hung up on me then turned her phone off. I dont know why she hung up on me. This is my mind thinking alot but my friend said she heard a guys voice in the background when she called so maybe she hung up on me cause she didnt want to talk to me infront of the guy.My friend is saying she's probably cheating on me. Which she doesn't even know her at all. It's just hard for me to grasp that the last time I seen her she was pulling me in to kiss her. So I'm lost and not sure what to do or say? Btw I left a little note with flowers yesterday in front of her apartment door and stopped back by late last night and they were still there.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (5 May 2012):
 Why don't you just text or call her? There is probably a simple explanation.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 May 2012):
Maybe she has decided to let you go. People are a bit gutless and seldom say goodbuy.
Have you tried calling her? You either need news...or closure...she owes you that but maybe she's been busy.
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