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writes: Hi, I am really shy, and always afraid to start conversations with other girls, that I like, also this girl stares at me a lot and I stare at her a lot, which gives me the impression we like each other, but we have barely spoke to each other before, and I was just wondering what advice you can offer.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2006): a good thing to remember in these situations is that the girl is probably feeling exactly the same as you, if you're getting the impression that she likes you, she's probably way too shy to make the first move or approach you. There's always the typical saying "boys should make the first move", but usually relying on her to make the first move usually means that you miss out. Speaking from a girl's point of view, i reckon a lot of girls would love it if a boy chatted them up, even if they weren't that keen on them. But us girl's have a sensitive side, and i personally find a shy boy cute:) If she's shy too, she'll be likely to let you down gently if she doesn't feel the same, but if she does then you could end up happier than you ever thought!!
My advice is to make the first move and approach her. I know, the biggest put off is the fear of rejection. But think to yourself, the worst scenario could be that she says no, and though it may feel like it at the time, it isn't the end of the world:) The best way to play things is to quickly catch her eye the next time you see her, but don't stare, just give her a cute smile. Then the next time you see her, you can then feel more confident approaching her. To start the conversation ask her something like " what lesson have you got next?", or " Hi, i don't suppose you've got the time?" You can then talk about brief things you have in common.
Just remember you've got nothing to lose and being rejected is much better than ending up saying to yourself "what if?". I hope you get the answer you were looking for and that it all goes well. Good luck xxx
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reader, macin_bacon  +, writes (21 June 2006):
 Whoa ... i had like the same problem... it was creepy the way, as i stared at her she suddenly glanced back :S and if you like her ... show her by gradually speaking to her, and eventually maybe you will become more than friends
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (21 June 2006):
 Well, it is hard when your shy. It can be quite a hurdle to overcome, people who are not shy don't appreciate this so much. I know what it's like to be in your shoes as I was shy...still can be from time to time. I think that there is an element of fear of what the other person might think, also a fear of rejection. How I overcome shyness is think of the worst that can happen in the situation. Here in your situation, the worst that can happen is if you were to ask her out she would say no. Well if you don't ask her out you will never know whether she may have said yes. You have nothing to lose!Sure we all make idiots of ourselves from time to time, as long as you learn from it, sounds like she likes you too. Try and approach her the next time you see her, just say hi, how are you? Don't think too hard what to say, be yourself, talk to her as if she were a friend. THINK POSITIVE! All the best darlin, hope there is a POSITIVE outcome...! x
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