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writes:Hey there, I've been hanging out with this guy for about three years, he considers me as his best friend and we hung out often, be it just the two of us or in groups. He told me confidential stuff and said he could trusts me. I get the feeling he is comfortable around me and treats me as one of his male buddy even though I am a woman. He knows of whom I am currently interested in and has been giving me advices on how to progress in this relationship. He and I are purely platonic friends, and he told me he is into one of our mutual friend and recently slept with her. This girl is much older than us and already had a serious boyfriend. She's a bit of an airhead type of person. Although she is a mutual friend, she and I are not very close and not very fond of each other although we remain civil with one another.She hung out often with my guy friend. After he slept with her, my guy friend said he is not interested in having a relationship with her, although he does care about her. But he has been telling me his plans on taking her out and giving her letters and ring, not a proposal kind of ring though.I am thinking that this girl is probably just wanting to have fun with younger man, and probably just using him for that, but he refused to hear to what I have to say and instead accused me of being jealous, although I have no romantic interest in him. How do I clear this up? Or should I just ignore the and leave them be?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2012): Let them be OP, if he asks you for your opinion give it to him. Otherwise let him live his life and make his own mistakes. Just be ready to help him pick up the pieces should this go wrong, but hope and assume everything will be fine and be supportive of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2012): You tried to do something about it already and he didn't like it, so follow everybody's advice and let him be the man he is. It's not your responsibility to do anything to try and stop him since he's not being hurt.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 December 2012):
 I sort of don't understand a man who is thinking about giving letters and a ring to a woman and yet he says he doesn't care about her.
I think you should let them be.
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (12 December 2012):
 You ignore it and let them be. If she is just using him then he will find out on his own and hopefully apologize to you. You put in your two cents worth, that's all you can do. People need to make their own choices and their own mistakes. Not that you could do anything to stop him anyway really.
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