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writes:HiI am a single man, but having problems finding out what's makes me happy lately. I have started to get feelings for one of the only people I can trust, but she doesn't like me the way I like her. She is amazing, everything a guy would want. But lately, I can't stop thinking about the person I lost my virginity too. Now a days, her face is everywhere I turn. Everytime I refresh facebook she's there. She was the only person I truly loved, but she split my heart into two.But this girl makes me feel actually human. As if I was with her. Everything would be normal again. It's as if there is something missing in my life, and she is that missing peice. I don't know what to do, and I'm seeking advice. Please help./
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reader, rcn  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 There is something missing in your life. It's you. You have a low self esteem, why? She may make you happy, but what about you is keeping you from being happy. It feels like their is a void in your own sense of being that you're trying to fill through another. If you aren't happy being you, no one you are with can cause you to truly be happy. Maybe that's why she doesn't feel the same.
There is a difference between being with someone to make you happy and being with someone to share in happiness. You need to dig within yourself to find what it is that makes you feel less that how you should feel, then work on that. If she's the one who you will share happiness through, it will be. If not, whoever is, will be. Relationships are not meant to fill voids or make you complete. You're completely you no matter who you are with. Relationships are to share who you are, while someone else is sharing who they are with you. So, that's what I'd work on. I hope this helps. Take care.
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reader, N91  +, writes (5 August 2011):
 There's not a lot you can do bud. I've been in the exact same situation as yourself a couple of months back so I know how horrible it feels.
She's since moved on from hanging out with me all the time to some other guy, it took a while to get over it but I'm okay now and we've remained friends.
All I can say dude, is its up to yourself to stop feeling crappy, you're gonna be feeling sorry for yourself and you're the only person who can get out of that slump. Keep busy, talk to new girls, hang out with your friends more, just don't stay on your own with your thoughts because that's when you start getting upset, angry, pissed off....whatever.
Just keep your head up man, if she doesn't like you back then she's obviously not the one for you, keep searching - heart goes out to you man, I know how crappy this feels.
Good luck!
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