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writes:Me and my husband have a large group of friends. We all meet up for events in our area and have a good time, but lately i have become suspicious of him.My best friend lives down the road and we get on great and most of the time it is just us and her. We go out for meals, i invite her to our house for cosy evenings in and of course we go to the pub most evenings.Me and my husband work, but she doesn't. She is a widow and a bit of a lady of leisure. But now my husband is off work for six weeks and i am very worried about leaving them alone together. Its got to the point where i don't want to go to work myself. I want to be there watching like a hawk. We have only known each other just over a year, but we have so much in common and we do enjoy gossipy sessions. But she has been setting her cap at fellas who are either too old for her, and tried to date a widower of two months and obviously i thought that was a little to much and told her to back off.But now she has set her sights on my husband i am sure of it. Over the last week since it has been sunny and lovely, we have been sat in the garden altogether and the two of them sat together and i sat opposite just to make sure i could see and hear their conversation. (we were in our large group again).I don't think my husband is really attracted to her, but with me at work he is left to his own devices for most of the morning.But there is a second part to this story. I think my husband isnt attracted to her because there is this younger model around. This girl is about 26, not pretty, but quite attractive in her manner, and is an acquaintance of most of my friends, even though we are all 20 odd years older than her. Lately i have seen the two of them meet on the street at least four times in the past week. They only let on to one another, but more often than not i see him watching her, or, when we met her together he looked over his shoulder at her and when i mentioned i had seen their third meeting as i had been looking out of the window, i asked what they had been talking about, but he just shrugged and never answered.So i have a best friend who wants him, and a young girl who i am sure he wants. I don't know if he will physically act with her, because i am quite sure she doesn't like him all that much as he can be quite patronising, but you can never tell with a girl can you. She may be nice and polite to our faces but we don't really know what she is really like.So can anybody help, does he fancy the girl and does my best friend fancy him? And what can i do if so?Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): Hi
You have got yourself all worked up haven't you? i admit reading it all i found it quite humorous, i don't think you have anything to worry about. yes temptation is there but doubt that he will take it. Hope all goes well and try to relax.
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reader, heatherrrrrrr  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Clearly there are some major trust issues cropping up here. There almost isn't anything you can do or say to anyone about this because if you are wrong, that would be very insulting to everyone implicated. I think the best you can do is try to settle your own nerves, stop looking for things and just allow them to unravel. If someone is gonna cheat, they just are, and you'll find out about it later. Then you can bust balls. Your husband may resent you if you seem too interested in his talks with other women. Men may seem a little daft in their intuitions, but they aren't idiots... I think.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (31 July 2008):
Wow, you seem to think your husband has no free will of his own, or is he that bad that you just can't trust him as far as you can throw him?
The young girl you can scare off, no problem. As for the neighbour, what's wrong with the guys she's been seeing apart from an age gap?
You are the one who stopped her from seeing the widdower, so if you are worried then maybe try setting her up with someone or don't be so picky about who she sees.
Good Luck!! xx
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