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*awrmaster
writes:So i'm dating a girl who has told me she likes girls more then guys. and that i'm the only guy she has ever been attracted too. and I fear she wants a girl and not me. She has always told me that she thinks i'm the most attracted person she has ever seen, but i know that is a lie... she in love with my personality... but i fear that isn't good enough... I talked to her about a few different times... and she always says the same thing... so what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Juliet  +, writes (27 June 2011):
Hi,
Sounds like as long as you are with her from now on you are going to be wondering if she will run off with some hot girl in the future. You'll be 'that' guy.. wondering whether she is chatting to a girl or flirting with her. You'll be pondering whether she is checking out a girl when you see her looking and glancing around and you'll be also wondering the normail thing men do in a hetrosexual relationship - is she checking out that guy?
So...
She was honest with you that her normal preference is women. I'd give her points/ some respect for that. But... she hasn't helped you because this is upsetting to hear.
I can see she has put you in an arkward position. You want to be with her, but you are already doubting if she feels what she says she does.
Ultimately, why not ask her what she prefers sexually?
I mean, in no disrespect, she finds women attractive for the most part, but she finds you, according to her words, to be the most attractive man.
So.. it comes down to.. what does she want sexually?
To see women or to see you/ to do things with girls or men? (not just you as an attractive man).
Also, ask her how she wants her future to be? Does she want what is considered the 'norm' or does she see her future differently?
This one is really confusing. Im sorry to hear your trying to understand this.
Best of luck. Please do let me know how it goes.
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