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writes:I work with a girl and I really like her. She's finishing work in a few weeks though I've worked with her for about 8 months. When we started to get to know one another, she was really friendly and chatty. I would compliment her and she would giggle, and it was really great! I sent her a valentine card, without revealing who it was from, and I think she knows it was me. Things were still great for a time. Now this other guy, my arch-rival is friends with her as well. They've known each other for years and they do talk a lot. He dated someone else even when he knew her, which makes me think that he didn't like her then, but maybe he does now....I think she likes him back and I get really jealous with him. Anyway, for the last couple of weeks she has been different with me. I don't know if it's because she's realised she likes him more or the fact that she's going and might never see me again. How can I know if she likes me or not. She really confuses me because I get mixed signals. I know this sounds petty, but when a group of colleagues we together watching a training video, I heard her ask if I had to watch it, almost as if she wanted me there....But when I went in there she didn't really talk to me. Please help me! Can you say if she likes me or not. I know I've typed a lot and you think I'm being stupid but I need advice.I'm going to ask her out for a drink saturday, so please answer before then!
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reader, salvation +, writes (26 April 2008):
i think give it one more shot man maybe she really did need to see her nan especialy if there close. Give it one more shot and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionRejected!!!!!
She said she 'sorry I can't tomorrow. I'd love too. I have to see my nan, its the only time we get to to see her.'
She never mentioned this before, and I'm sure she was only saying she'd love too so my feelings wouldn't be hurt.
Later, i told her I was sorry i asked, and that it didn't matter. Slightly exasperated she said, 'it's only cause I've got to visit my nan'. She's 20, so i think she can make her own decisions.
PLease help, any advice is welcome. Does she really like me? If she did, wouldn't she offer an alternative? Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionRejected!!!!!!!!!!
I asked her, but she said she couldn't and was sorry. She also said she'd love too, but had to visit her nans.
I never heard of her visiting before, she's over 20 so she can make her own decisions. I think she might have just been saying this to spare my feelings.
Later, I told her I was sorry I asked her and that it didn't matter. She said, slightly exasperated, that it was only because she had to go out. But I was thinking that if she really wanted to go with me, she would have offered an alternative. Don't you think?
PLease, any adive is helpful.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Right well its now or never time, you do right asking her for a drink, you need the answers and you need them fast.
She is maybe giving off mixed signals or maybe you are reading mixed things, its hard to know as im sure you are finding without asking her.
The drink is an ideal time to ask as you could say you want to take her for a leaving drink.
Tell her in a jokey way that the valentine was from you and look at her reaction, this will tell you if you should proceed to tell her how you feel.
I always find that if you dont say what you are thinking then the other person does not know, they cannot mind read and if they feel the same and you dont say, then its a lost maybe forever, opportunity. if you say and she does not feel the same, then the worst that can happen is that you loose a bit of face and tell her you are a silly fool for getting it wrong and does she forgive you as you still want to be mates.
Good luck!!
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reader, salvation +, writes (23 April 2008):
Your not being stupid but without knowing her and seeing how she is with you no one here can say for sure if she likes you but i think you should talk to her about it you only have a short time left better to find out now than carry on wondering forever
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