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*ookwormrose
writes:Ok, so i've fallen for my friends on off boyfriend...which for the sake of anonymity i'll just call 'N'.But i'll start for the beggining and explain the whole story from the start...I started working at a small supermarket in january last year. 'N' was/is my supervisor there. I started to really fancy him, he was funny and cute and we'd flirt and mess around and i thought he liked me too. Then later i found out he had a girlfriend and a baby, she, the girlfriend, worked at the same place as us but since she worked days and i worked evenings i hadnt seen her before then and nobody ever mentioned her. After that i kinda backed off, but i still couldnt stop thinking about him and wanted to get his attention.Then him and his girlfriend split up and she was really upset and didnt seem to have any friends or anybody to talk to, so i leant an ear and a shoulder and we became friends. After that i really tried to avoid him, you no i thought i could stay away from him and that would make me forget about the attraction i felt for him... but it's really difficult to avoid someone when you have to work with them all the time.I still couldnt stop thinking about him but i still helped them to patch up their relationship and they got back together. Then i started dating somebody else at work, another attempt at forgetting about him, that hasnt worked. the person i started dating at work is his friend, so now we have all been doing couple stuff together and i see 'N' even more, I'm even dreaming about him! I really like my boyfriend, i'd even say i love my boyfriend, just not in the head over heels way. Now 'N' and his girlfriend have split up again, and my boyfriend is desperately trying to get them back together, i think he may suspect i still have feelings for 'N', since when i was drunk one time i admitted i liked 'N' when i first started working at the supermarket.So i'm sorry this was such a long story but basically what i'm asking for is advice on what to do? or more importantly advice on how to forget about him and switch off the feelings i have for him? because i'm really struggling with this. And i can't stop feeling guilty about my feelings for him at the same time.
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reader, salvation +, writes (24 April 2008):
oh and dont feel disloyal your not acting on it and in time your feeling for him will fade and then you can live your life focusing more on your current relationship
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reader, salvation +, writes (24 April 2008):
np if you ever need someone to talk to you know im just a pm away. Like i said stay strong and if you ever start to feel weak think of the child and come and talk to me im happy to help you whenever you need me.
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reader, bookwormrose +, writes (23 April 2008):
bookwormrose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks salvation and his little girl is the main reason i have had the strengh to stay away from him up until now... its just i feel really disloyal to my friend and my boyfriend for feeling this way, even if i havent done anything about it and i had nobody else to tell or to talk to about it since i couldnt tell anybody i know in case it got bk to anyone involved so its been eatting me up a little. thanks again xxx
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reader, bexii_16 +, writes (23 April 2008):
well as the saying goes "never leave the one u love for the one u like because the one u like will leave you for the one they love", so u just got to ask urself is it love or lust u feel for him
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reader, salvation +, writes (23 April 2008):
i have said this to many people sadly feeling cant be just switched off you have to use your will power to avoid and get over him stay strong about it and always keep in mind the child it has a future too use this idea to help keep yourself away from him.
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