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writes:I have been with the same girl for 3 years. This is the longest relationship I ve ever been in. The main reason why I got with her because at the time I knew for A fact she could be faitahfull and so could I. All my other relationships ended either because I cheated or the other party did, so I no what to look for when some body cheats on someone.Well in Dec.08 she started a new job and so did I we used to work together until we both lucked up and got better ones just apart. IM NOT VAIN BUT I VE ALWAYS GOT EVERY GIRL I EVER WANTED.And I we wre even discussing marriage.Well my new job paid alot more but at first it was mentally exausting and alot of nughts I would come home tired or moody. Her new job was basically a walk in the park.Well afteri got used to the job and everything went back to normal she told me that a guy at her job always threw random parties on the weekends and everybody that worked with him and their freinds or signifficant others could come along . The first two parties that he threw i had to wor k ,she asked me could she go anyway and out of trust I let her since I used to go out alot with my freinds. Well one night she came home with a new cell phonewhich we didn,t need but she said she was tired of her old one . A week later I woke up out of my sleep and shewas in the bathroom so thinking nthing of it i went back to sleep .45 min later I wake back up and she is still in the bathroom,except this time i heard her talking to someone. When i got up to see i noticed her phone was missing , so i waited about 15 min and she finally came out. I didnt say anything at first till i heard her in the kitchen say Ill try. I put that is ill try to call u back if i can.So the next day I just asked her what were you doin last night in the bathroom so long and she said nothing .So I waited aagin about an hour later and asked her the same question and she told me a totally different answer. So i asked who she was talking to and she said nobody I told her I heard her talking to someone and she got pissed of. Well for the next week I stated noticeing we didnt have sex for the first time in our relationshp she acted funny. She make little rude comments started alot pf unesscessary arguments and even stated marking the food in the refrigerator.Then it hit me One night she said she was going to this dudes party and so happen to be that i was free and wanted to go with her and she told me all of a sudden it was employees only.The next day she was hiding the new phone and gaurding it everywhere she went it went then she started getting a whole lot of text messages . But everytime she would get them she run to another room or wait till i left the room before she would text back . Even went so far as to do it in my face and when I got up too see who she was talking to she hide it . Then she started saying i was watching her when I shaved . So one day this guy who threw the parties and some other girl came to the house. The whole time he was there he cuoldnt even look me in the face .When i asked Her why she said It was my fault?.After that she starte dgoin g out with thes people she took my cell phone one time she said it was by accident and she would always like to talk all the minutes on my phone up so when she did go out I wouldnt have any minuets to call her .Neighboors said that they have seen this guy at my house and have even described this guy to a tee. There is a lot more I could write 6 months worth . In the long run I think she cheated on me but she will not admit it what should i do .I really think i should just leave her no questions asked what do yall think
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell it has been about six months almost prior to the date I realized this situation as occuring.And I am sad to say that in these six months I have gone through alot of soul and mental searching and have come to the conclusion that I should and will let her go.I have caught her in at least 10 lies in this time period like when she got of from work and this guy doesn,t even work there anymore. I have even talked to this dude face to face and he denied everything.But, after I found out he was at my house wghen I talked to him on the phone last I basically told him in a rude and direct way that if I saw him or if i found out that he called or was talking to her again that I would beat that u no what.I was a golden glove champion in the state of P.A. for 2 years work out two hours a day and bench 300 pounds even,he dont want it ,but I no he and her aren,t worth the time and energy.She continues to act funny and before the last time I talked to him she claimed she hadn,t talked to the dude in 2 months,that is the same timre period tha he was spotted at my house.She claim she has changed and that it will never happen again but i cant trust her and it seems like she might be doin the same thing again just wwith another person.Thou i dont have real proof of this but this other person is her ex-girlfreind who they keep in contact a little to much and i no for a fact her is girl is a s--t cause she told me and at one point she has made indirect hints a me.It hurts cause I no for a fact that all the payback that Ishould have gotten from my past has already happened so iguess i will this take this as a learning experience and get the hell on. thank everybody out there who took the time to read my story and send their opinions.Hopefully you will never have to go through anything like that. But if you do and you write Ill be there to help. PEACE .
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): well the tell tale sign is when the neighbours verify your suspicions. and the cell phone thing is a dead give away.
what your neighbours are trying to tell you in an indirect way is that this man has violated your home by coming into what should be considered your safe haven. it also means that there is a great possibility that he and your gf have been having sex in your home, on your bed.
whether she admits it or not, you need to make a decision. i think you know you cabn get any girl you want, why settle for the cheating and lieing gf. the quicker you get rid of her, like yesterdays garbage, the sooner you can start looking for better. and there is better. you just need to be available and they will flock to you. your gf will never admit that she is f*cking around. you need to accept it. you are not a fool if you don't know what is happening, but if you do know she is giving it away to another guy and you still stick around, guess who is the utter utter fool.
realise this, cheaters will almost never admit their wrongdoings.
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reader, joe26  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 definately shes entile to have her own privacy but she is going out of line.... i think she cheated on you and planning to cheat again. Confront her while shes doing this and that....dump her if she continues to doing all this stuffs. find someone who can understands you in every way and respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): well,first you should be grateful you are not married to her and you don't have kids to suffer.so just break up with her. probably she wants that too.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (15 June 2009):
 Why would you be crazy enough to stick around for this long is beyond me...dude she is cheating with this guy, and throwing it in your face!
You deserve to be respected, but looking back, you say you have cheated on people in the past. It does not feel good to be on the recieving end.
In short, get rid of her, and let this be a life lesson to you that chickens do come home to roost eventually. Let her be this other guy's problem
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (15 June 2009):
 She's through with you. You are best off to get our quick with some dignity intact.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (15 June 2009):
 I think you should confront her about your suspicions. With everything that you've said though, I definitely think she is cheating on you. That's some crazy stuff she's doing. Just tell her everything you have typed down here and ask her if there is anything she wants to say about it. You have every right to be suspicious. If she denies everything, you have to ask yourself if you are willing to trust her answer and move on with everything, never to question the situation again. It sounds like you aren't. And if she does admit it? Do you think you would stick around? This is all about your personal preference. I would definitely talk to her about it though before making a decision. You at least owe her that much. With everything you have said though, I personally would start thinking about how you're going to break up with her. All these signs are bad.
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