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writes:I'm 15 and in love with my teacher (and NO it is not a crush or infatuation) and have been for almost a year, and even though i've been very unhappy since i realised how i felt for him, recently it seems to have gotten a lot worse - whenever i'm near him, my heart beats so fast, i feel all shakey and my breath comes short, i feel anxious if i go by a place where he could be and almost run away, and now i can't even appreciate the two lessons a week i have with him becuase i'm so upset about how i feel and how he sees me as nothing more than a pupil. i think that i'm severely depressed or really unstable, mentally, because i have all the symptoms, but i can't bring myself to talk to a councellor about it or my family. I feel like i could have a breakdown any day and often feel like i'm losing my mind. What should i do? I feel so hopeless and helpless and alone, and it's just going to get worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone thankyou so much for your replies - they've really made me see that i need to talk to someone, and i plan to do so soon: i'll provide you with an update when i do. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): you may be scared about talking to somebody about it, but you needto. maybe you should also tell your teacher- i know it sounds crazy but it could be the only way to relieve your tension
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): I'm on anti-depressants now, and I rarely ever feel like I'm going to lose it anymore. Idk if they would work for you or not, considering how you are really young.
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reader, Alexsavisertavis  +, writes (15 March 2008):
ok well girl you need to see proffetional help because hate to break it to you but it will never work out between you and him. you may not have a crush on him, you are just sprung on him, you think you love him, but you just don't you want to love him but you can't. if you really liked your teacher then you would stop crying your little blind ass eyes, and tell him that you like him. This is just a stage of puberty, you are an emotional reck, your emotions are going all over the place. take this from me I went through the same thing, I was always mad or sad, and I thought that i was going crazy, but yes it will never work out between you two, because it is your mind that likes him, not you, don't be stupid, you are a 15 year old girl trust me love dose not exist in that age.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (15 March 2008):
 Hiya hun, I totally understand what you're going through - i've been there and still am really! Been in love with my teacher for about a year now.Last year I became so attached to my teacher, that i felt i couldn't live without him. I thought my life was worthless, it got so bad that i decided to get some help. I had ONE councellor meeting, It was really nice having someone listening to me pour my heart out, A close mate of mine came with me and just supported me throughout. It helped but the effects didn't last and I took drastic action about a month later and wrote a letter to him explaining how I felt! I also apologised for ever making him feel uncomfortable, because he knew about my feelings for him anyway. I don't know what I thought this would achieve, because if anything, I was left embarrassed and very hurt. He reported me... and well I had to face many consequences because of it! However, in the last 2 months or so - I've been Okay! I still feel sad and anxious whenever I see him, but i'm beginning to cope better now. I wish i'd had more councellor meetings though because it probably would have prevented me writing a letter to him! Anyway my advice to you is it'll get better - That is, if you can gain the courage to get some help from ur school councellor. Trust me, a few appointments could make all the difference. Have you confided in a close friend about it? Because it is really important that you tell someone you can trust and who will support you - Friends can be a lifesaver when you're feeling really down. What also helps, is the fact of having your whole future ahead of you. One day I know i'm gonna meet a man who'll love me very much, I'll get married and have children. I feel as though my feelings are wasted on this teacher, because nothing is ever gonna happen as I have now learnt to accept. Try to do the same, think ahead and realise that you have so much to look forward to in your future life.I hope i've helped you out a bit!P.S. Feel free to message me if you wanna chat xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): hey i was in almost the exact situation about 2 years ago and as much as you dont want 2 tell any1 its the best thing 2 do talk to an adult and its up to you if you want to tell them who it is but if you do reasure them nothing has happened between you but the onlyway things will get better is if u confide in someone who knows a thing or two bout love trust me its worth it. let me know wb x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): you just have to wait like i have to wait
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