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*HISPERSOFMYSTERY
writes:Confused about my friend?I am so confused, my money went missing and I believe my friend stole my wallet which had over $1000 because she was the only 1 who knew i had it besides my family,she was the last person i was with and she was the only 1 who knew it was in my purse ,my purse was closed but the only thing missing was my wallet which i never lost before and i had it because i was going to buy a car that day anyways shes been trying to talk to me through myspace and facebook ,when her camera went missing she told me that every 1 accused me but she never questioned me.and i told her that i don't even know what to think and for some reason every time we start talking again she needs a favor, i don't know if shes using me or lying because my whole family hates her so its hard. I always question since my stuff is missing wouldn't you? plus i never trusted her but how could my purse open itself and my wallet walk out and purse close up, and when i get home and search the house there's no wallet. I don't know if I should become friends with her again or not for some reason if I do I have a feeling I will regret it and she told me that everyone said she shouldn't try to be friends with me because I think she took my wallet. Honestly I don't care what people think about what I think because I never trusted her even tho she was my friend and i told her that before straight to her face, when you see or been through a lot you start to not settle for B.S and realize anything can happen
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Since you will never know 100% if she took the money or not (unless she confess and I highly doubt she will if she took the money) you will never be able to trust her 100% and for me, a friend is someone you can trust without a doubt.
I would cut her out of your life, even if she in fact may not be the thief, there is still the doubt.
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reader, WHISPERSOFMYSTERY +, writes (15 May 2012):
WHISPERSOFMYSTERY is verified as being by the original poster of the question I dont trust people any more because every friend I had nearly betrayed me and I did block her, she had 5 facebook accounts so I blocked every account. She got in contact with me because I forgot to block her grandmas facebook and she wrote me through there. I miss her in some ways but I was very depressed being her friend I felt like she was doing something behind my back or talking negatively about me, you know how you get that gut feeling you cant trust somebody because so many suspicious reasons came up and that person was involved in each 1, there a many reasons why I dont trust her. I think its because I stopped being her friend before and then it just wasn't the same after reestablishing our friendship. I don't know im just stuck or just too mature
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Friends come and go. Lose this one and make another one with someone you can actually trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2012): Cut contact with her, it doesn't sound like she is your friend. She probably did steal that money, it's convenient how she comes up with that story about her camera and tries to guilt trip you into being friends again (which is a weird way to go about it - most people would just not contact you and wait for you to come around if they really hadn't done it).
Also if the only reason she contacts you is to ask for a favour, then it looks like she is just using you.
If you don't trust her and don't want to see her then just block her online, it's not hard.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (15 May 2012):
 Hi WHISPEROFMYTERY,
Sorry that you lost so much money, it must have been an awful feeling, specially when you were saving to buy a car? So sorry. In regards to your friend, just let things cool off for a bit. You don't need to be enemies, try to keep it casual, in any situation when in comes to friends, it's better to keep things civil. Specially your age, when it's always so much drama, gossip, and sometimes people can be harsh and immature. So always keep it civil, you don't need to show your true feelings all the time. You know what they say: keep friends close, enemies closer" wow, the wallet missing it's really a mystery, as you mentioned before only your family and this friend knew about it? Yeah, it's confusing, I have to agree with you. Have you try to remember that day? Where did you go? Are you sure you didn't lost the wallet yourself? I mean, I could happen? It's very serious accusing someone of stealing, so before you make any assumptions make sure to think of that day again. If in case your friend really stole your wallet, man, that's horrible!!!!! Shows her character and believe me, you don't need people like that in your life. If it's true, it's disgusting stealing....
Not sure what to tell you what to do? But, always keep in mind that it's always good to end in good terms. In a long run, it's always better for you, because you never know what the future holds and maybe you will have to see this person again, and you don't want to make an awkward
situation.
Best wishes and good luck!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 You can't be friend with her. And not because she must necessarily have been the one to steal your money ( possible, but not totally sure , and in any case you have no evidence ).
Simply because the main ingredient of frendship is mutual trust, and it's impossible being friends when you have the nagging feeling that your friend may be stabbing your back any moment.
It is very unfortunate that this happened, in the off chance that, 20 years from now, you may discover that the thief was another person. But, atm, you feel what you feel, and your feelings are not totally irrational or paranoid but based on reasonable assumptions. So, this friendship has run its course.
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