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writes:I have been dating my bf for over a year. I go to his house at least once a week and so I see him mom alot. I feel like she doesn't make an effort to get to know me. I am shy and soft spoken and bad with small talk but I try to say hi and maybe give (an honest) compliment but sometimes its hard to get her attention to even do this. I even gave her gifts to show I care and think about her. However, she is very friendly with her other son's gf and they are friends. I feel so akward and left out during their family get together. Should I just deal with it and get over it? I know her son loves me very much and we're gonna be together for a long time so I'm not going out of her life any time soon.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (26 January 2011):
 You're shy; his mother might be even moreso.
I have two daughters. One has a b/f who is remarkably polite and consistently makes an effort to get past my shell. Over time it's been reasonably effecive, and we on occasion will banter a bit. The other is about as introverted as I am, so the communication is minimal. I appreciate that he's a good guy (and so give him and my daughter absolutely no more grief than might be required in a given circumstance), buy he could easily conclude that I dislike him.
Hang in there with the mom. If her issue is her own shyness, then what you're doing will win out over time. If she's worried about how you're going to treat her son, then keep doing what you're doing -- loving him, treating him well, making him happy -- and she'll come around. I know it's uncomfortable, but if she loves her son she'll eventually come around to treating you decently.
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reader, iicandyxoxo +, writes (26 January 2011):
 That is quite normal, happens with alot of people.
Just deal with it.
Don't give up of what you are doing..
Just show that you care for your boyfriend very much.
Be nice && everything just don't try to hard to be nice, && don't make it obvoise that you are just trynna impress her becasue that may be a problem to.
Pretty soon she will see how good of a person you are and start likeing you,
It may take a while like a few years er something.
But don't give up (:.
Hope all goes well. XX
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