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writes:What are people's thoughts? If two people are really attracted to one another, can they just be friends or are they kidding themselves? Reply to this Question
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (27 January 2011):
Yes it can be done. Whether or not it should be done or not depends on a very wide number of factors, as it can be very difficult for some people, it can impact on other relationships, and people fuck it up on a regular basis and cause infidelities. There can be someone that you are wildly attracted to that you are unable to have a sexual encounter with for whatever reasons, and if those reasons are valid and you choose to develop a genuine closeness and love for that person in addition to the chemistry, the chemistry can over time become outweighed by the love and fondness that you feel for them. It does require a shift in focus, and not everyone is at their own point in their development to be able to focus on these aspects in a way that can overshadow their sexual drives. You need to know yourself and the other person has to want the same thing. But the short answer is, yes, it can be done.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 Depends. It's possible, but only if they're attracted to each other in the "I'd do her/him," sense, not the "I'd take actual steps to doing her/him."
If you don't trust your own willpower, or the other person's, or your significant other's, then no, it's not worth the risk. Otherwise, just be sure you're certain and don't take unnecessary risks (drinking with an attached, opposite-sex friend alone at her house is a bad idea, for instance).
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): If your guy had a female friend and there was attraction from both,would you allow them to be alone? That is the answer.
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