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writes:My boyfriend and i get on really well were the best of friends and we are so in love however he works with a girl who for the past two years i have been extremely jealous of as much as i dont like her, my bf and her are still good friends, however the other night i foned my BF as he said he was going to be home but when I foned he was with her, i didnt mind but just said well text me when shes gone and i'll give you a ring back. I was watching a film until late and noticed it was late and thought he must have forgotten 2 text me so I texted him and he ignored me. I phoned his mobile but it was turned off which was unusual for him so i phoned his house phone he answered the phone but was really cocky so i ended up hanging up on him after i had hung up i felt guilty so rang back several times and he just kept ignoring my phone calls. He didn't text to see if i was ok until dinner time the next day.My suspicions are that his work friend slept over.Do you think I'm right?Something doesn't add up and i need to know whether people think i'm paranoid or there is something to worry about.I did ask my BF about this but he denied it!Please offers some thorts on the matter!Thank you X
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): I am in a situation where my boyfriend was best friends with a girl at school, we have now been together for two and a half years, they are still friends and she lives away from us now but when she comes to visit it is an absolute nightmare for me and she hates me and has told me to my face, i am left out and upset, he never sticks up for me and he always thinks that i am not making emough of an effort and does not believe me that she has said these things to myself, however, he has only once chosen to spend tme with her instead of me, one sunday morning he got out of bed very early to go and say good bye to her before she set off for home again. He was gone for about three hours and didn't answer the phone to me when i called. When he finally came back i told him that if had been a role reversal he would not have put up with it and so if he ever did that to me again i would be gone and that would be us over. I know that this is what she wants but at the end of the day I just will not put up with being treated like that and my boyfriend is slowly getting the message. Remember that men are stupid, and full of double standards and also quite like the flattery of this other girl giving him so much attention, and that she wants you to be jealous so you need to rise above it. However, you also need to eveluate your relationship with your boyfriend. I think the reason I have put up with the fact that my boyfriend sometimes does not stick up for me is because when she goes home again it is so worth it, but if she lived nearby we would probably have been finished ages ago, but the fact that your boyfriend has chosen to one spend an evening with her over you is wrong, the fact that you were ok with her being there and that you actually said let me know when she is gone and i will call you then, you felt guilty for hanging up the phone when he was obviously being mean and that he ignored your calls probably says that you do not trust him, and he is walking all over you! Time to get rid I fear or lay down some serious groud rules which will either work wonders or he will make the decision to end your relationship for you if he is up to no good!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): wow that is really sketchy. you have really good reason to be suspicious because the way he acted just wasnt right. i agree with the girl below me, just ignore him for a while and act like you dont care. i think you're much better off than being with someone that sketchy and cocky
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reader, Keria +, writes (26 April 2007):
Just because you phone a guy's mobile and he doesn't answer doesn't mean he has a girl sleeping over.
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (26 April 2007):
Whether you are right or not about this, I would still say he acted in a way that failed to respect your feelings, especially by being cocky and making promises that let you down. When it comes to ignoring you, that really isn't a good position for a relationship, and understandably you feel let down. I'd say take a break, because he's got a lot of making up to do - let him do some of the chasing for a while
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): i think your right because the way he acted and i think you need to take a break from the situation but also that he shouldnt have been rude or cold to you when you called and also i think he may have finally felt guilty and texted you the next day but i say give him the inore treatment and turn your phone off if possible and turn your home ringer off and just go out and relax with out him and give your self to think while he gets the treatment you got. but do it twice as long or longer make him think and when he does get in touch with you tell him you were busy in thought but leave it confussing but yet simple and say you got to go and leave it as that if he texts u dont answer them if he asks whats wron ignore it and chane the subject if he wont let you say i really have to go and end the call but good luck and this ignore thin does work he'll never be like that again and if he did do what you think which it sounds like he did than he'll think you know and come clean
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