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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I think my boyfriend still has a thing for his ex, which is my best friend.. When ever I talk to him or text him he always mentions his ex! I try and change the subject but he just goes back to it. We have been together 4 day's but we have liked each other since the day we met I met him last year in October. What shall I do leave him or give him a few more day's and see what happens from there? Please HELP!!
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 Hey OP,
Aside from everything else, you need to read this.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/remember-the-code-respect-girl-code-and-.html
Going with your best friends ex is an absolute minefield. The most likely outcome is the loss of your best friend.
To get to your expressed question, here is some stuff to think about. Our personalities are made up of our experiences. His ex is an important part of his life that will never go away. He liked her a lot. She must be a great person, you both like her. He probably thinks that being her friend you would be interested in his experience with her. (well 13 year old boys really don't have a lot of experience it's a typical mistake)
Next the break up I take it was recent. That means he is still in the rebound stage. What that means is he needs some one to be with, but he is still in love with her. Dangerous territory for you.
I know you really want this to be true love right now, but a few weeks from now you will know much better.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 Relax, it's only been four days. Depending on the circumstances under which he and his last girlfriend broke up, he may need some time to deal with it all. Don't expect too much just at the moment. The fact that he is talking to you about this means that he trusts you enough to share that with you. That is a good sign.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): To all posters read her other post here first for a clearer picture of the situation.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/only-been-together-4-days-but-i-think46.html
Calm the hell down girl, that's what you do. It's been 4 days!! That's nothing and you're going to ruin this by going all psycho on him, with this overbearing, clingy, needy mad stuff.
You got him, he's your boyfriend, stop panicking and enjoy it and if you can't then you need to move on.
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