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writes: hey,I dont know what to do in my relationship i think my boyfriend is cheating on me i have been with him for a while now and i cant seem to ask him a question without him being angry with me and he does try to get me out of his house.plz help me Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (21 April 2006):
 As Danielle kind of implied, unless you have other reasons for feeling this way or concrete proof, I would avoid thinking he is cheating. Especially dont bring it up to him unless you have the above since a false allegation of cheating is hardly likely to improve his mood.
Danielle is right, a more mundane but also plausible possibility is that he feels smothered. I assume things were not always this way; is he under any particular stress (eg work, family) right now?
Whatever, you do need to talk about this and urgently or else the relationship will swiftly degenerate and will cause you alot of hurt in the process. Hope that helps, take care.
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reader, Danielle934 +, writes (20 April 2006):
 If it seems like every question you ask him makes him mad, then that is a huge sign of verbal abuse. He isn’t necessarily cheating on you, he could feel smothered by you at the moment… that is why he gets mad when you ask a question as well as why he tries to get you to leave, but non the less this isn’t how you should treat someone you care about! Do you spend a lot of time together? You need to sit and have a talk with him about this, tell him how he is making you feel. If he gets mad and wants you to leave then tell him this is exactly what you are trying to talk to him about. If he then insists on acting that way then you need to break up with him. There is no reason why you should stay with someone who makes you feel this way; you should be completely comfortable talking about anything with your partner!I felt like this for a while towards my husband and finally realized that he was abusive. It took me leaving him for him to realize he needed help. Things are much better now between us and I am finally beginning to be able to talk to him about things I once avoided because I didn’t want him to get angry.Wish you luck!
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