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writes:Hello everyone.Im sorry if this is so long, but I need help and some advice. Ok so i split up with my guy over 3 months ago ( we were together for 2 years) and I know it needed to happen and I dont plan on getting back with him again, but theres something that is niggling in the back of my head that is preventing me from moving on. When he dumped me he said that he didnt love me anymore. I accecpted that and didnt try to win him back, but I have been thinking over these few months why he didnt love me anymore. About 4 months before we split up, we had a big issue were he would keep on looking at his ex who goes to college with us and I got really down about it and I asked him why he kept on doing it and if he wanted to go back out with her, but he said he didnt. This went on for a good 2 months. And finally I confronted him about it saying im realy fed up of it. He admitted to me that he was trying to test me and he enjoyed doing it. I felt so unbelieveably let down and rejected as he didnt have reason to test me. I hadnt cheated on him ever (but he had in the first few months of the relationship) and he knew I got really jealous if anyone flirted with him or he did it back. So after that happened, I started having trouble with his class mates (there all girls). They kept on interfering with our relationship and saying a few nasty things about me to him. I felt really rejected when he wouldnt tell them to stop being horrible to me when I asked him and he told me he agreed with what they said about me. So...I couldnt trust him anymore and thats when we started the arguements. I tried to be a better girlfriend, but he would abandon me for these other girls in his class and I had my suspicion that he fancied one of the girls called "E".We split up, then a lod of my mates told me they had seen him with another girl cuddling up to her and holding hands and she was blonde (like E). I confronted him becuase I couldnt believe how quick he had got over me and he denied ever being with another girl, shouting at me saying how could i accuse him of doing that. Ever since then, we have kept in touch and hang out with each other on satadays, but he keeps on hugging me all the time, giving me massages and etc and I feel like a tag along.so lately i have been wondering whether he was cheating on me in the last few months and im now just comfort to him and also that im probably just a rebound for him when he does get a another gf.Also, i want to point out that E has a boyfriend and has been known to cheat on him. Also that my ex used to be a very kind sweet loving person, now hes changed. hes arrogant, big headed. thinks hes better than anyone else and doesnt care when he upsets people.Ive told him to stay away from me, but Id like to rest my mind and perhaps have a little idea why he did leave me.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): I think you deserve better. Let him be a bad memory. I know that you want to know if he cheated on you, but we can't tell you that, only guess. You didn't trust him and he wasn't a good boyfriend to you, he may have been good once upon a time, but as soon as he felt comfortable enough to treat you badly he did. He didn't care if he hurt you and actually went out of his way TO hurt you. He played on your feelings and did everything he could to make you unhappy.
Try to move on. Just think about how badly he treated you and how he was so hard to trust. He used to stare at his ex-girlfriend infront of you. This is not on. I hopw you find better soon and you are able to move on.
Good Luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Vow, it sounds as if this guy is some piece of work.I think you should forget about him, stop being friends with him, he is using you and after what he has put you through, "kick" his butt.I don't believe you will ever get any clser to the truth with this guy.Forget about him and start dating new guys. With him around you, he might be keeping other guys away from you.Good luck!
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 sounds to me like hes a playboy, he wants to be surrounded by women and not tied down to just one. i could be wrong but thats what it sounds like to me.
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