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writes:I think my Best Friend is in love with my Boyfriend?!!!?Me, my best friend met my boyfriend-to-be in a halloween party. the following year, in february, this guy proposed to me, and i accepted. something happened a month later- something stupid got into my head, and i decided to tell my boyfriend that i want ready for such a relationship yet. he was heartbroken...and even during the following months......he never had feelings for any other girl, because he loved me too much. during that break.....i found out that i loved him too much, and i couldn't forget about him, no matter how much i tried to distract myself... and during that time, my best friend told me that she liked him very much. Much later, on Christmas that same year, my boyfriend called me up because he wanted to make up...i didnt want to repeat my mistake- we made up.......got back together again.....and this time, we're holding on to each other like we'll never let go. he's afraid of losing me. but somehow...i keep having this feeling that my best friend still loves him....according to her... he is her 'other best friend'... last night, when my my best friend was depressed and down, i called her up and gave her some comforting words, and she shot back "ARE YOU TALKING TO YOURSELF? CUZ I AINT LISTENING TO YOU..", but when i called my boyfriend to tell him to call her, he said that he's already talking to her....and that night...wen i asked him how she was feeling, he said that he made her smile and laugh (which sort of got me jealous)....they talk on the phone at night (when i'm not allowed to), and this kind of gets me jealous...she sings songs like "the winner takes it all", and i put up a smiley face when i'm actually VERY sad...and i dont wanna hurt my best friend in any way......i cannot bear hurting her.....also, my best friend's sagittarian, and both me and my boyfriend are Cancerians (i just thought of mentioning that!) ....please help! what should i do?
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reader, iSmil3y  +, writes (6 March 2009):
Well, I was kind of in the same situation as you.I met a guy back in October 2008 and we started dating and my best friend, of 3 years(Who didn't even know my boyfriend), said she liked him. I found out she was calling him, telling my friends she thought he was hot, etc. I confronted her and we got into a huge fight and now we're not friends at all. It's been 4 months since I've talked to her.You don't want to end up in the same situation because honestly, I love my boyfriend to death but I also miss my best friend. I think you should talk with her, calmy and ask her to back off a little and also talk to him and tell him how you feel and say you don't like him and her talking constantly like that. But sit down with both of them and talk to them and tell them exactly how you feel before any friendships get broken.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Okay firs of all if your mentinoning horroscopes they have no substance to them. And plus if they did, having two people under the same sign, isn't good! befor you rub that in.
Anyways, i think that you should say to your boyfriend that you are not comfortable that he is getting so close to your best friend as she really likes him.It sounds as if, if you broke up she'd be the first to jump in and knab him.
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reader, vmadman +, writes (6 March 2009):
Horoscopes are a myth, first of all.
I am bit perplexed about the proposal thing.. wow.. you sound so young and already we're talking proposals?
I am 24, and I can tell you that marrying too young puts a horrible strain on your relationship, and your life.
Being your age im sure you think I'm full of it, and thats fine, you'll figure it out eventually.
As for your problem: Your boyfriend is definately into this girl if he talks to her late at night, its just the way life is. Let him know that last night was the last night that was going to go down.
It seems like you're just in a horrible situation, and I have different advice depending on how old you are.
If your 12-20, then I'd say that friends, and boyfriends, come and go, and how you handle this wont make much of an impact on your life either way. Write down your feelings and study them, try to determine what logic tells you to do, then do it.
If your 21+ then I'd say that friends are forever and boyfriends dont matter one bit until they've spent 2 months salary on a ring to show you he means it. Ditch him, support her, and move on.
Hope that helps,
l.c.
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