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writes:When my boyfriend and I first started dating, I told him how I feel about porn. I think it is nasty and hurtful. Well, I just got out of the hospital delivering my son. I'm only 18 years old. I found out on our e-mail address he was not only looking at porn, he made 2 profiles on adult swingers sites including adultfriendfinder. He signed us both up to find omeone for a threesome. I'm confronted him and he said he doesn't have a reason why he did it and he will never do it again. What gets me is.. he is lucky to have me in the first place. And hello!! I just got out of the hospital delivering OUR baby. Well, I've been having really bad panic attacks and mood swings since. I have blacked out and hit him several times. I even tried to choke him. I hardly remember these things and I really can't control it. It just really hurt me. I hate him at times and love him at times. How do I deal with something like this?? Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): the abuse is wrong no matter how you look at it. i wont say porn is wrong or right but you have made your feelings about it known and your boyfriend should try to respect thosee feelings, especially now when your hormones are still fluctuating. keep an open mind though, at least he's at home and and not cheating on you. just give it some time.
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reader, justice09 +, writes (11 March 2009):
justice09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you everyone for all the great answers.
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reader, Mickii morphine  +, writes (6 March 2009):
 OMG...i dont understand men these day ...no offence guys.
why men have to look at porn and have pathetic obsessions with a naked women or nudity. although it not like most of us never did it .. i still think its wrong . i really feel sorry for you ...and good luck with you and your baby.
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reader, Mickii morphine +, writes (6 March 2009):
OMG...i dont understand men these day ...no offence guys.
why men have to look at porn and have pathetic obsessions with a naked women or nudity. although it not like most of us never did it .. i still think its wrong . i really feel sorry for you ...and good luck with you and your baby.
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reader, vmadman +, writes (6 March 2009):
Porn sites are fine. Adultfriendfinder is not fine.
Guys who have a healthy addiction to porn are at least feeding that addiction at home, rather than strip clubs and one night stands.
Go ahead and accept the porn, all guys love it, and it doesn't mean ANYTHING about you.
Give him sex, let him do whatever else he needs to do, and let him know that you wont be partaking in any threesomes, ever (unless you want to).
As a woman you also have to keep sex interesting for him. Your hot body (if you have one) will only get you so far.
I'd love to tell you that guys can control their sexual urges as well as women, but the fact is that we just can't.. you can believe me or not, but I have no reason to lie. Make boundries and as long as he doesn't cross them be flexible.
As for your blackouts, I can't help there, that might be a good question for a doctor.
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