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writes:I have just started college a month ago. My closest friend there is a guy (i'll call him James) and we hit it off straight away when we met. After knowing him for about a month, he keeps calling me his girlfriend's name accidentally. I don't think he notices... It's pretty strange. Me and his girlfriend have similar-sounding names, but I never know what to say when it happens. I really like him in a more-than-a-friend way... but I dunno. Arrrgh I'm so confused. He always hangs around with me if he can and pokes me all the time, which I usually see as flirting... until it happens to me. What do you think?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): I think you should back up here and think this through with some common sense. He has a gf..he's attached..never lose sight of that very important fact. You want to find another fellow to date and not cause pain and hurt in another female's life. As for calling you by her name...I call those brain farts. We all do it-it's human-don't make a lot of it. So what is it about you, that has you thinking, he might be interested and flirting with you? You do sound lost and confused a bit plus desperate to want to be attached and connected to someone....anyone. Step back, regroup, think about this...seriously and with rationale. Again..I repeat-he's attached..he is not available. If he and she ever split up...then you make your move. But in the meantime, by all means, be his good supportive friend and ask if you can meet 'her' too. But do not interfere in his love relationship with her. If you do that, then you are not a genuine, generous friend, are you? We don't do that to friends because we 'want the goodies'. That's pretty self-involved and I think you are a bigger, better, decent person, than that. Take care, hun amd think smart.
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 This one will probably require a lot of intuition and good judgment on your part. If you get the sense, from his actions, that he has feelings for you, maybe it's time to discuss that with him. But if you're not incredibly certain and you want to keep his friendship, I would hold off on that. Tread very carefully here. It's very tempting to want to flirt back, especially if his girlfriend's not around, but trust me, it will get back to her eventually and the last thing you need is his girlfriend hating you. Good luck! :)
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