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writes:im engaged to be married in 2 yrs just before i go to uni. but recently my fiance and i have been discussing our future and we want different things. i want to complete my degree and then travel for awhile. he doesnt ever want to leave our hometown.im having serious doubts about the wedding now. i dont wanna break up with him but think marriage is too much if we want different things. what should i do?
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reader, LauraE +, writes (11 July 2007):
Hi,
The other 2 are right, no rush. You don’t have to end it right away just because you want some freedom while you are young. Just be honest with him about what you want. Maybe after you have been to uni and travelled, you will be happy to settle down. As long as he knows how you feel, you are being fair to him.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (11 July 2007):
 hey hun! ok, you need to really have a good chat with your partner about your feelings. he needs to know what you want from your life and he needs to respect that. just tell him that you do love him and you may want to marry him one day but its not the right time for you now. you should never enter into something as serious as marriage until you are 100% sure that its what you want. you need to follow your dreams and if you dont because of your partner then you may regret it one day and resent him for it. You need to do whats right for you...talk to him, if he loves you he should understand.good luck hun, i hope my advice helps. mail me if you want any further advice.take carejane xxx
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
Your both still very young I am not saying marriages don't work because you marry young but in your situation your going to uni and want to complete your degree good for you babes, and when your done you want to travel thats great do all of this while your young don't ever stop doing what you really want to do otherwise you may end up resenting him later in life...
This doesn't mean you cant marry him, tell him how you fell about all of this tell him you don't want to later on in life possibly resent him if you don't do what you want to do.....
He is happy to stay in his home town thats what he wants to do, why don't you tell him you don't want the relationship to end you love him dearly but to wed in 2 years is too soon ,why not suggest marrying him a little later so that you can do all of the things you want to do first...
I am sure he will understand darling you need to let him know your true feelings about all of this it doesn't mean you don't love him does it???/
Good luck bbes let me know how you get on
Love Donna xx
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi babe. He needs to understand your thaughts and how serious you are on this matter.. If he cant understand then, when the time comes, you will still do it, ( i advise not getting married until you have been traveling ) because you have to live your dream.. I hope i helped & good luck. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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