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writes:I'm 12 years old and have been thinking about sex for a couple of weeks and i really want to try it and no i'm not a slut/slag or whatever you want to call itso my boyfriend who is 3 years older(been with him for a year and totally in love with him), said we could for my 13th if i wanted to, so i said i'd think about iti think im ready but part of me is thinking i'm too youngam i?
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reader, xLovex +, writes (23 August 2008):
There is a reason why there are laws that say you shouldnt have sex until you are 16 (at least in the UK)
Yes sex is a way to express love. But this kind of expression can create serious problems to our health if you are not old enough. You can become infertile, get STI's/ STD's, pregnant and the rest of it.
You are much better of waiting but it is normal to be curious. I think you should question and explore sex on websites such as this but please don't practice it. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): Okay, maybe I am only 11, but I feel the exact same way. A part me wants to but I know I can't 'cause it's ILLEGAL. But do whatever you want, it's your life. By the way, Do your parents even care? Seriously, you should ask your parents what to do, and even if you don't tell them, won't they catch you? Not that you'd even care but, how would your parents feel about you having a baby at age 13?!
- concerned person
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): Sweetie you are way way too young. I am a youthworker..please don't!! I am not sure about the laws in the states but in Australia anyone under 16 has to be notified to DOCS..(i think you call it child services there) if someone discloses they are having sex under 16...your boyfriend could be charged with stat rape...sex is an adult thing at 12 my dear you are still a child..hang onto your childhood have fun with your female friends and enjoy being young...with sex comes serious responsibilities you have to think...can you handle it if you become pregnant..can you handle catching a disease..can you support a child?? Do not have sex and i suggest you speak to a school counsellor or a trusted adult with what you are going through...your parents if you can..this really disturbs me that you are even contemplating having sex because you are so young..yes your body is starting to experience womanly feelings at that age..but you are a long way off from being one sweet...say no to the guy...to be honest at 12 id get rid of him..12 is tooo young for even a serious boyfriend...grab the girls and go see a movie..dont do something you will definately regret later on.
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reader, Milana  +, writes (17 August 2008):
Whatever happened to just trying masturbation. It's like the whole part of exploring your own body before letting someone else go there is totally gone. I must have had low self-esteem because I didn't think about sex because I wouldn't dare let someone see me naked.
There are so many 12 and 13 year old girls, NOT boys, on here asking whether they should or shouldn't have sex. It is a personal decision and you should in no way let someone control this decision for you. I know preteens and teens look older now, but seriously, there is no need to act like you are grown. When you don't have to question if the time is right or if you are with the right guy, then you will know without question.
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reader, DieRomantic +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Hun the true answer is yes you are too young. I'm 16 and i still think I'm too young for sex. If you are doubting it then you shouldn't do it. Sex is something that should only be done if you are 100% sure its the right time and the right person but this is only a advice site so you dont have to listen to us so if you decide to have sex just make sure you use protection. The last thing you want is kids running around at that age. Also dont go around telling your friends you had sex if you do decide to because it doesnt make you look cool you'll just look like a whore. So i wish you the best of luck on whatever you choose to do.
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reader, HiswifeNlover +, writes (15 August 2008):
 hi hun.. look i am 18 i lost mine at 15 and somtimes i wish i could take it back just remeber you have your hole life ahead of you are you ready for all of the posabilites.. your so young injoy yourself... you shouldnt be thinking about this at that age anyways.. just remember.. your 12..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008): honey, i'm 18 and i didnt lose my virginity until i was 16. best step i could have ever taken. 12 is TOO young, you will regret it. have fun and take this relationship lightly, you may think its love but chances are it isn't. i'm six years older than you and i haven't been in love yet. hang fire, even for two years when you're 14/15 if you're clever. its a big, big emotional step.
but ultimately do it when you're happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): hia babe!!! i think ure way tooo young to have sex at 12..ur onli a baby still...even tho u MIGHT have a mature mind but that isnt the point! i think like most off the answers say i think u should wait and you will get alot of respect for it! and like one off the other lasses sey its really not that good and u really need to loose your virginity to someone u kno ure goin to stay with for ages and that will respect....him seyin that hell have sex with u when ure 13 is not respectable! by sounds off it, it looks like he just wants it...and if u have sex with him and then he finishes you then you WILL regret it....i lost my V at 16 to someone i loved and i was drunk but then he didnt want to kno and i regreted it..... and now am with this lad and have been for a while and part off me thinks that i wanted to loose it to him....but anyway no one can tell you what to do its ur life..ur body!! but just take everyones advice into consideration lovey!! good luck!! mwa
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reader, kakatala  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 I would like to say I am 25 years old and i did not try it tell know !.
I think It's better to think before taking such big decision , but be sure if you delay it to it's appropriate time to enjoy yourself & your B.F .
Finally do not make this mistake , you are too young !. Think of another interests .
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (12 August 2008):
 You are too young and i would seriously wait
If your bf loves you then he'll wait and it will prove your love for each other
Sex isn't great anyway so your not missing much!!!
People would have so much more respect for you if you wait and trust me, you wouldn't want to have sex and then regret it
If you did do it then you're also more at risk of getting cervical cancer
so if nothing else has pursuaded you to think again......then that should!
You probably don't know all the information about sex either so you'd probably be shocked
You also have to think of the consequences like pregnancy and STD's and also the saying 'once you've popped you'll never stop' which in a lot of cases is true
I hope i've helped but whatever happens, ALWAYS have safe sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm 13 in november.
he's 16 in march.
and he said he doesnt want tof force me into anything i'm not 100% sure on. thats another reason i love him so much.
n i do think i was a bit stupid to be considering it at my age.
i've said to him wait a couple of years til i'm like his age.
and yes i am aware of the risks like getting pregnant.
thanks for all your help =] xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Definelty too young!!! Your only 12! I was 18 my first time and i still think i was too young. I have a little sister that is 14 and if i found out she was having sex i would die. You may love this guy but if he loves you he wont keep on to have sex. You still have A LOT of growing up to do before you choose to do something like that. You have to think of the consequeneces. What if you got pregnant. Are you ready to be a mom? Im goin to guess no since you are in school with no job and arent even old enough to drive. You really need to think about holding off on this. I think if you wait, when you are older you will be so glad you did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Well the law says you are 4 years too young. But I suppose some people could be mentally ready before that, but I think a lot of people that lose their virginity before it is legal regret it.
I think that if you need to ask then you are doubting it, and that's your gut instinct telling you not too. You should wait til you are of the right age and until your body is of that age too, because even if you are ready for it in your head, your body probably isn't just yet. And losing your virginity is definitely not something you want to regret later on, because you can't get it back once it's lost..!
Hope that has helped a bit! Good luck!
xx Hope xx
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reader, Spiffeh.. +, writes (12 August 2008):
 You are way too young to be making that kind of decision which is exactly why its illeagle! You would have to live with that decision for the rest of your life! Is this guy really worth it? You probably wont be with him by your next birthday. Dont rush into anything i almost made the same decision when i was 13 and knew just about everything i needed to know but i would have been too young to handle sex emotionally although i thought i was ready. When you get older you will understand it all much better and be better prepared to handle any consequences. Dont rush into anything just enjoy being a kid while you can. Oh and sex isnt all its made out to be for most people so the first few painful awkward times are nothing to rush into =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): 12 is really young age to be having sex i know you sed on your 13th but that is still young i dont want to keep going on about your age but he is 15 nearly 16 that is ilegal.
if you do this you need to really think about it and it is your 1st time you gota be sure hes the 1 .
when r you 13 hun plzzz rite a follow up to let us no what happens .
this is a big dession think carefully
xxGud lukxx
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reader, kw +, writes (12 August 2008):
hi,ist of all i will say its totally illegal for the both of you to have sex as u are underage (have to be at least 16) if you love each other he should wait til ur that age.i dont think ur a slut or anything at all like that but i do thing ur far too young to be thinking of doin this.even if u decide to u MUST MUST MUST use protection because u dont want to get pregnant or an STI.i STRONGLY advise against having sex at ur age tho,u and ur boyfriend will have alot of respect for yourself if u make him wait.i made one of my boyfriends wait 2yrs even tho i was above the age limit,its all about respect hun thats what i think,ur still a child,just wait a few more years.u have to be 100% ready and i dont think u are yet.xx :)
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