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writes:Hi guys.I feel ashamed for even feeling like this, is it true you can't help who you find attractive? I have been with my girlfriend for four years now, and we get on 'ok' no problems at all. In this time I have also seen her sister grow into a very beautiful girl.Now this seems likes the biggest cliche ever, and I hate myself for it.We have so much in common, like the same music, films, food etc. When I see her it is like time stops some how, when she smiles it makes me feel how I have never felt before. I have been in love before, but I have never been with someone I could call my soulmate, she feels like she could be.I know what the answer is, and I should just forget it, but it is so hard, and I just know this will be the biggest regret of my life. Let me make it clear that this isn't just a silly 'I want to bed my gf's sister' question, I really believe she could be 'the one'. It hurts even more, to know that she doesn't know any of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): so if she is THE ONE, what do you do with her sister?? have you considered what you would be doing to this family, to these sisters? why the hell are you still with your gf, dammit you have stolen 4 years of her life already and you are plotting to be with her sister. take a critical look at yourself. you are using your gf, stop being a selfish *astard and grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): i think its wrong. you have been with your girlfriend for 4 years, why would you want to throw that away for her sister? who you say could be 'the one', but it wouldnt work out anyway because thats her sister, and if her sister did start going with you that would make her a bad sister, and that is just betrayal. i know sometimes you cant help who you fall for, but falling for her sister is a definate no no. i have been in this situation, my boyfriend fell for my sister and he left me for her, i was betrayed by both... a few months down the line there relationship didnt last, and i think thats just what happens, it wont last if you go to her sister. you say she doesnt know any of this, she might not even feel the same way about you at all... and think of your girlfriend, she would be heartbroken if she found out your in love with her sister. but then if your not happy with your girlfriend (which you cant be if you fell for her sister) then maybe you should tell this sister how you feel, she'll either say she feels the same or says she dont, if she does say she feels the same, and you end up with her i bet you it doesn't last, it might but i doubt it. as you can see i have a strong view on a story like this because i know the heartbreak it can bring. but anyway this is just my opinion and advice. x
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reader, Primo48  +, writes (8 March 2010):
You don't mention how old you are. If thisg with the younnger sister is real, you should be together. If you stay with your GF because of "Loyalty", you will never be truly happy.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 March 2010):
What you see of your girlfriend and what you see of her sister are two different things. With your girlfriend, you get the good and the bad, you have the arguments, you have the ups and downs and all the tears, the shouting. In essence, everything that goes with a relationship. What do you see of her sister? You see this so called 'perfect' woman who has grown up. You see her smile, you see the good. You don't see the bad. The truth is it wouldn't work out. For one, she is your girlfriend's sister and if she was a decent sister would never speak to you again. If she's a bad sister, she'll go out with you. But you could never trust her. Because if she was willing to do the dirty on her sister, she would do it to you. She's not the one. She's just a girl who seemingly appears perfect. But as we all know, no one is perfect. The best thing you can do is leave your girlfriend, who clearly isn't the one, and cut all contact. You'll lose if you speak to the sister, and you'll look pretty bad too.
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reader, bite  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Hey Mate that really sucks. I kind of think though, you might need to break up with your gf & remove yourself from the situation. If the whole time you are with your girlfriend you're pining over her sister, you're probably not being very fair to her.
If someone left me to date my sister I would be completely devastated.
If one of my sister's boyfriends had asked me out, no matter how strong the chemistry was, I really hope I would have had the strength to say no, because I wouldn't think much of myself if I could do that to my sister.
I wish I could give you more cheerful advice, sorry.
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